is he cheating on me???

[ChadCoxRox]

...I realise that I am focusing on things that could be more so than things that actually are and it's a very unwise move...he knows i'm just insecure. The main reason I was insecure is because I don't think his treatment of me is fair sometimes I suppose...I don't feel like I measure up...I feel like he is only settling for me... So I don't think this relationship is healthy with his behaviour and mine too of course.

I get the sense that you are over thinking and guessing and supposing. Again, regardless of the person you are with, your way of doing thinking and feeling will come to bear. If you really believe you are sub-par OR if you really thinks he sees you as sub-par, either way it's still you and your stuff because if he could do better then he probably is! Or will! And you've got yourself a self-fulfilling predicament that is predictable and painful...but "safe", because you already thought and guessed and supposed correctly.

I wonder if this is or has been a pattern for you or the beginnings of a pattern? Either way, the GREAT part is that you are aware and asking and interested. I'm glad you're here!