Seeking Advice from anyone

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Your partner obviously needs help, and you obviously want to help him. That's all good but, as hard as it is to do, I think tough love is in order here.

He is relying on you to bail him out and, most won't get the help they need until they hit rock bottom, that's just human, and especially male nature. The only way he is going to see that he really needs help is if you stop bailing him out. (Yes do call 911 if his life is in danger, but don't bail him out financially, or out of jail.)

You want to stick it out, and that's admirable but, it's destroying you financially and, emotionally. In your place, I would go with separation, but not dissolve the partnership just yet. If he makes no move to improve himself, then file for a dissolution of the partnership - you will still have six months to reverse it, if he makes improvements in that time.

You could allow him to stay as a roommate, if you can handle that. If not, he needs to find a new home, or go to a shelter, or other housing.

In short, stop enabling his bad behavior and, ability to be in self denial - let him hit bottom.