Need some support/advice!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Or you are both using each other as a way to get off.

Which may be more to the point if you two are actively having sexual relationships, its just two guys scratching an itch.

I'm not going to lie to you and tell you there is no possiblity of rejection, There is a very real risk that if you start talking about love, relationship and other stuff he will dump you in a heart beat.

However, there is more of a risk here that this will continue and you will become more and more frustrated and eventually end up passing up on a guy (or gal) who can really satisfy the emotional needs you have.

Clearly he isn't straight. Clearly you are both young and trying to find out who 'Me' (yourself/himself) is in this world. Seems to me you have a better idea since you are self proclaimed 'pansexual'. However you do have a ways to go from being self proclaimed to being open and honest about it.

And him? IDK - gay, straight, bi whatever if you two can't or won't talk about the fact you are fooling around - having sex with one another then someone is living in denial about who 'Me' really is.

Is it you living in denial here? No? Then it may be up to you to bring up the subject and talk about the obvious white elephant standing between you two.

Yes there is a risk he will reject you, there is also the risk that he will want a bit more from you than just head - like something more closely resembling a relationship - whatever that is when there are two closeted people in love with one another.