02-18-2014, 11:34 PM
So thereâs this one guy whoâs a very good friend of mine and some time ago he told me heâs gay. He's 23 years old. I was surprised, because I know him a long time, however I never had even the smallest suspicion about his sexuality. Of course, I treated him nicely, we talked about it. He feels bad about being gay, he cannot really accept it, he was like âwhy me of all peopleâ, he wants to be like most of the guys who like girls. By his own words, Iâm the first and the last person he has came out to, because weâre good friends and Iâm gay like him. I tried to help him, I tried to explain him that thereâs nothing wrong with being gay, itâs just who he is. He believes same sex relationships are useless, because they cannot lead to children. He was like "I can't choose my sexuality, but I can choose whether I want to follow it".
Because he cannot accept himself being gay and believes itâs wrong, he said he wants to spend his life alone. He said heâll not be that much of a bastard to use girls trying to turn straight, which is impossible, but heâll not date guys either. I asked him what will he do when heâll fall in love with some guy whoâll love him back, he answered âIâll just send him to hellâ. He says heâll never be together with a guy, no matter what. He would even push away a guy he loved, that shocked me.
I just donât know what to do. I want to help him so much, but he doesn't really listen. Heâs not even religious and his family is not religious. I accepted myself fast, so maybe I donât really understand what he feels like, but I donât think itâs possible to hide from your sexuality all your life? How can I help him?
Because he cannot accept himself being gay and believes itâs wrong, he said he wants to spend his life alone. He said heâll not be that much of a bastard to use girls trying to turn straight, which is impossible, but heâll not date guys either. I asked him what will he do when heâll fall in love with some guy whoâll love him back, he answered âIâll just send him to hellâ. He says heâll never be together with a guy, no matter what. He would even push away a guy he loved, that shocked me.
I just donât know what to do. I want to help him so much, but he doesn't really listen. Heâs not even religious and his family is not religious. I accepted myself fast, so maybe I donât really understand what he feels like, but I donât think itâs possible to hide from your sexuality all your life? How can I help him?