07-31-2014, 02:47 AM
Luaj,
I'm not going to get into your case about hitting a woman/girl.... or anyone else.
I run into violence all the friggin time through working in a jail. People end up there because of violence and get to meet me up close and personal because of violence while there. Here's what I've learned about violence.
The best thing to do to avoid being harassed is to avoid making yourself an easy target. A huge factor is the confidence you project. It takes a while to learn when you can assert yourself and when not against someone harassing you. Me being tall and pretty well known for being gay and a fighter makes me a prime target in bars for drunk women who assume I won't hit them. The first thing I do is put on my psycho smile, invade their personal space and talk real sweet as I say, "when was the last time someone tied your tits in a knot behind your head?" That usually does it.
Now in stores, or any businesses where an employee pops off at me... It's a no brainer. I will stay there, politely in their face until the law comes to settle an issue about a man who's been called out or disrespected for being gay by an employee. I will humiliate them in front of customers and coworkers and use my phone to have corporate headquarters on the line if it's a franchise so they can hear everything. I never raise my voice or make threats, never respond directly to insults or threats and most of all smile the whole time. With few exceptions are there any franchises or chains wanting to get into litigation about employees being rude to gay people.
That Applebees incident you mentioned... if you'd played that right, the girls would have been history and you'd have gotten a gift card for at least $50 -- maybe $100.
But unless you can do this with complete confidence and a totally cool head you're better off taking CCRox advice.
I'm not going to get into your case about hitting a woman/girl.... or anyone else.
I run into violence all the friggin time through working in a jail. People end up there because of violence and get to meet me up close and personal because of violence while there. Here's what I've learned about violence.
Everyone does the best they can in any situation and circumstances at that moment
with the tools they have to work with at that moment and those circumstances.
with the tools they have to work with at that moment and those circumstances.
You just didn't have a great set of tools at that moment and in those circumstances,
That's all.
That's all.
The best thing to do to avoid being harassed is to avoid making yourself an easy target. A huge factor is the confidence you project. It takes a while to learn when you can assert yourself and when not against someone harassing you. Me being tall and pretty well known for being gay and a fighter makes me a prime target in bars for drunk women who assume I won't hit them. The first thing I do is put on my psycho smile, invade their personal space and talk real sweet as I say, "when was the last time someone tied your tits in a knot behind your head?" That usually does it.
Now in stores, or any businesses where an employee pops off at me... It's a no brainer. I will stay there, politely in their face until the law comes to settle an issue about a man who's been called out or disrespected for being gay by an employee. I will humiliate them in front of customers and coworkers and use my phone to have corporate headquarters on the line if it's a franchise so they can hear everything. I never raise my voice or make threats, never respond directly to insults or threats and most of all smile the whole time. With few exceptions are there any franchises or chains wanting to get into litigation about employees being rude to gay people.
That Applebees incident you mentioned... if you'd played that right, the girls would have been history and you'd have gotten a gift card for at least $50 -- maybe $100.
But unless you can do this with complete confidence and a totally cool head you're better off taking CCRox advice.
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