Need sex advise on new relationship (lack of sex)

[MikeW]

Interesting how many different POVs there are on this. [MENTION=22502]mcl0325[/MENTION] , I'd certainly want to know all I could about what's going on. I'd be asking a lot of questions. Ok, so he gets himself off at least once a day. Wana do it with me? What gets him off? Can I join in? Can we make that part of our sex life? I'd also want to know a lot of details about the past relationship. What was so damaging about it?

IDK, sometimes, even though guys are out there meeting other people, they just aren't truly *available* for a relationship. Sounds like your guy isn't… not for a sexual one, anyway. And I'd sure as hell want to know that before I got any further involved. It's fine if someone I'm seeing has issues -- don't we all? But the question is, is he working on them? Is there any way we can work on them *together* -- does he want that or not? For sure, I have sexual needs and if they aren't being met then no matter how much I like the guy or how attractive he is, this isn't going to work. A relationship may take a lot of work but it shouldn't be endlessly frustrating, either.

[MENTION=21084]Virge[/MENTION] 's notion is interesting. It's a good question, is he *using* you in some way? I'd want to take a look at that that, too.

Anyway, good luck, welcome to the forum. Don't be a stranger! Come back and catch us up with more details if you get them. We're here to help but also to learn and we can't do that if someone just posts with a problem and then never returns to give us feedback. :\