Wrapped in a twisted situation

[jimcrackcorn]

Your dorm mate handled the situation in an immature manner. I suspect he is young and didn't know how to deal with the letter, so he approached others and told them what happened.

As for your next move,, you have several options. You can let this situation play itself out. After a few weeks everyone will find something else to gossip about,, or you can own-it proudly and hold your head high. Don't hide away in your dorm room, get out there and be friendly with everyone (including the guy you wrote the letter to) and let them know it was just a simple mistake on your part. The fact is,, you did nothing wrong,, other than make an honest mistake of thinking he was interested in you.

In the future,, when you suspect someone is interested in you,,, try making friends with them first by hanging out with them. Get to know them a little better, and then tell them you are gay. Once they know you are gay, then all you have to do is wait until they make the next move. And don't write any more letters to explain how you feel about someone,, confront them directly and lay your cards all on the table. It is better to have them reject you directly to your face than leaving you wondering what's going on.

Sincerely,
Jim