Wrapped in a twisted situation

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Now, as for you [MENTION=23340]tmp5453[/MENTION]

You handled the entire situation poorly.

You were playing hot n cold cause you were insecure (understandable, but still not recommendable)

You based your decisions on the words of a third party. He is the only source you should've based your knowledge in.

You had a few chances of getting more aqcuainted to him considering he displayed a friendly behavior. You should have taken those and then, by getting to now him a bit better, you could have known what's his deal. Simple questions as "do you have a girlfriend" etc.

And last, you are indulging in too mich wishful thinking. Seeing everything he does as a sign of something because you have feelings for the guy is mistaken. You could be wrong. And that could be incredibly awkward if you did put all that into the letter.

And of course, adressing the things personally with him would have gone much better. You were too nervous to do it once, you should have tried again.

The situation now should be closed by talking to him alone. The can of worms is already open, so you can say simply, "sorry if it made you feel awkward but I like you and I thought there might have been some indications that you liked me" something like that. His reply will put an end to all of this. At the same time, do let him know that blabbing about it with everyone else for fun is immature and not a cool things to do.


So, now you known more or less how NOT to go about if something like this happens again. If he's like that guy anyway. Maybe you'll find some guy that's a bit more "obvious" or more forward with you, assuming you are showing yourself to be available.

But, keep your brain full with cold thinking and not overrun by emotions, so you avoid future problems.