Aries
10-08-2016, 02:27 AM
In a good relationship, you can depend on your partner in any situation. That can never be the case if your partner is closeted. Ending it with this guy was 100% the right choice.
Let me tell you a story. I'm a farmer and when I was first starting out, I had a greenhouse for starting all my crops, but I hadn't yet made enough money to have a backup generator. Well, one cold winter night the power went out, and stayed out for hours. Ice was forming on the ceiling of the greenhouse. In another hour, I was looking at a loss of tens of thousands of dollars, and it would have put me out of business. I knew only one person who would have a generator I could borrow that night and save all my crops. It was a f-buddy of mine, who was closeted.
Although it was late, I called him up. Before I could even begin to tell him my situation, the minute he knew it was me, he said, "Sorry wrong number," and hung up on me. He had a some friends over at the time, so he had to hang up on me to preserve his cover. He couldn't be known as someone who helped out a gay guy in time of need.
So I sat there in the cold darkness, wondering what I'd do if I lost the whole business. It was such a terrible feeling, that the one guy who could help, would not help because he was in the closet. I saw how in my moment of a very simple need, he could not even have a conversation with me, and hung up as fast as he could.
About 20 minutes later, the power came back on, the heater came back on line, and the crops were saved. The next morning I went out and bought a generator on credit.
It is pointless to be in a relationship with someone you cannot rely on.
Let me tell you a story. I'm a farmer and when I was first starting out, I had a greenhouse for starting all my crops, but I hadn't yet made enough money to have a backup generator. Well, one cold winter night the power went out, and stayed out for hours. Ice was forming on the ceiling of the greenhouse. In another hour, I was looking at a loss of tens of thousands of dollars, and it would have put me out of business. I knew only one person who would have a generator I could borrow that night and save all my crops. It was a f-buddy of mine, who was closeted.
Although it was late, I called him up. Before I could even begin to tell him my situation, the minute he knew it was me, he said, "Sorry wrong number," and hung up on me. He had a some friends over at the time, so he had to hang up on me to preserve his cover. He couldn't be known as someone who helped out a gay guy in time of need.
So I sat there in the cold darkness, wondering what I'd do if I lost the whole business. It was such a terrible feeling, that the one guy who could help, would not help because he was in the closet. I saw how in my moment of a very simple need, he could not even have a conversation with me, and hung up as fast as he could.
About 20 minutes later, the power came back on, the heater came back on line, and the crops were saved. The next morning I went out and bought a generator on credit.
It is pointless to be in a relationship with someone you cannot rely on.
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