Feel like no one likes me at times.

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[MENTION=18789]artyboy[/MENTION] Well sounds a lot like me and I wonder if you're doing the same thing. I try to set up things with people at the spur of the moment, which usually doesn't bode too well. Sometimes planning ahead doesn't work. The thing I find is that a lot of people stay busy all the time so I am finding it harder and harder to spend time with others, they have families, business to deal with, etc. I can't speak for your exact situation but it may very well be that your friends are often just busy and not necessarily trying to avoid you.

What I don't get is why your friend would have to eat a place that has stairs? I don't see why there can't be any room for compromise. Now here in the US, we have the ADA, it is the law that someone be able to enter a building in a wheelchair, there must be a ramp, must be at least a certain length and there must be handicaped parking available. It is there so that people who have disabilities can enjoy the same things everyone else can enjoy.

Not sure how that goes in the UK. But I only know of a couple places that have stairs around here. One shitty bar in Helen, GA (A small German-like town, but mostly it's a tourist trap from hell lol) and one nice place called Shoebootie's Cafe that has a small bar upstairs....but here it's not that common. So surely not every nice place your friend likes to eat at has stairs... That sounds like a lame lame excuse and if there were the case I probably wouldn't categorize him as a friend. However, I am hoping that is not the case and there is some explanation, not saying you should call them on it that might not go over so well.

As far as calling people, not sure but seems that no one likes to talk on the phone these days, seems texting, facebook, etc are the best means to communicate with anyone under 40...and that might be pushing things... Older folks, like my parents for instance will always prefer phone calls as they can't seem to get text messaging down (they do have a flip phone so I can see why..... 22 6 77 11 44 555 0 11 444....eh fuck it)

I don't know about you but if I had a good friend who happened to have a disability I certainly wouldn't be making excuses not to hang out and spend time with them, but that's just me and I don't foree myself treating someone that way in that sort of predicament.