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06-04-2017, 06:22 AM
Hey [MENTION=24505]Wolfe[/MENTION], welcome to the forum! You ask some interesting questions.
I remember being about your age and heading into the library to read about homosexuality, and in whatever book it was they defined gay people as those who had 7 or more same-sex experiences. I think at the time I'd had 5, so I thought to myself, "Phew, I'm not gay!" LOL. I've had periods in my life when I've only had sex with men, when I've only had sex with women, and even some periods where I'd go back and forth between men and women. I would not label myself as bi.
The early research into human sexuality was by Kinsey in the 1940s, and here's some cool excerpts:
"The classification of sexual behavior as masturbatory, heterosexual, or homosexual, is, therefore, unfortunate if it suggests that only different types of persons seek out or accept each kind of sexual activity. There is nothing known in the anatomy or physiology of sexual response and orgasm which distinguishes masturbatory, heterosexual, or homosexual reactions...(Kinsey et al., 1953:446) It would clarify our thinking if the terms could be dropped completely out of our vocabulary (Kinsey et al., 1948:617).
"Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual... Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into pigeonholes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects...(Kinsey et al., 1948:639)."
Then he went on to develop a scale of 0 to 6 to try to approximate that continuum. [Or developed 7 pigeonholes, haha.] You can read about the Kinsey scale if you want.
I'd say a label isn't really going to help you much. Just keep treating yourself and others well and do what feels right. In time it should all become clearer to you, your likes and dislikes.
If you insist on a label, maybe not-straight fits? Feel free to adopt and cast off labels as they do or do not serve you.
PS: Always use condoms and assume everyone is poz no matter what they say.
I remember being about your age and heading into the library to read about homosexuality, and in whatever book it was they defined gay people as those who had 7 or more same-sex experiences. I think at the time I'd had 5, so I thought to myself, "Phew, I'm not gay!" LOL. I've had periods in my life when I've only had sex with men, when I've only had sex with women, and even some periods where I'd go back and forth between men and women. I would not label myself as bi.
The early research into human sexuality was by Kinsey in the 1940s, and here's some cool excerpts:
"The classification of sexual behavior as masturbatory, heterosexual, or homosexual, is, therefore, unfortunate if it suggests that only different types of persons seek out or accept each kind of sexual activity. There is nothing known in the anatomy or physiology of sexual response and orgasm which distinguishes masturbatory, heterosexual, or homosexual reactions...(Kinsey et al., 1953:446) It would clarify our thinking if the terms could be dropped completely out of our vocabulary (Kinsey et al., 1948:617).
"Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual... Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into pigeonholes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects...(Kinsey et al., 1948:639)."
Then he went on to develop a scale of 0 to 6 to try to approximate that continuum. [Or developed 7 pigeonholes, haha.] You can read about the Kinsey scale if you want.
I'd say a label isn't really going to help you much. Just keep treating yourself and others well and do what feels right. In time it should all become clearer to you, your likes and dislikes.
If you insist on a label, maybe not-straight fits? Feel free to adopt and cast off labels as they do or do not serve you.
PS: Always use condoms and assume everyone is poz no matter what they say.
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