Virgo
06-04-2017, 12:28 PM
Hi Wolfe,
I've known I am gay since about age 11/12. However, some people work it out or accept that they are much much later, so there is no rush or no time limit to figure this all out. Take your time, and don't worry about labelling yourself just yet.
Couple things. Your Grandmother is 100% wrong. You do not turn gay from being touched inappropriately. In fact, you do not turn gay at all, being gay is something you always are, it just takes some people longer to realise as I said above. The older generation can have very odd and ignorant views on it- it's not their fault per say, it's just what they have had drummed into them through their lives.
From what you have said, you might be gay, you might not. One thing that [B]might[/B] lean my view towards you being possibly gay is that you feel more comfortable speaking to guys than girls. Do you know why this is? Also, if you are worried about being gay, do you think possibly this could be causing you to be in denial? Having sex with guys but denying fantasises or wanting to date them? Being in denial may be one theory, again it is hard to say. One thing I would say, is try not to put too much pressure on yourself. You have plenty of time to work this all out. And, unlike some people, a good support network
Finally, ALWAYS wear a condom. Unless you are in a long term, fully monogamous relationship with someone you can 100% trust, it would be stupid to do otherwise. There are a range of different diseases you could pick up besides AIDS anyway.
Good luck!
I've known I am gay since about age 11/12. However, some people work it out or accept that they are much much later, so there is no rush or no time limit to figure this all out. Take your time, and don't worry about labelling yourself just yet.
Couple things. Your Grandmother is 100% wrong. You do not turn gay from being touched inappropriately. In fact, you do not turn gay at all, being gay is something you always are, it just takes some people longer to realise as I said above. The older generation can have very odd and ignorant views on it- it's not their fault per say, it's just what they have had drummed into them through their lives.
From what you have said, you might be gay, you might not. One thing that [B]might[/B] lean my view towards you being possibly gay is that you feel more comfortable speaking to guys than girls. Do you know why this is? Also, if you are worried about being gay, do you think possibly this could be causing you to be in denial? Having sex with guys but denying fantasises or wanting to date them? Being in denial may be one theory, again it is hard to say. One thing I would say, is try not to put too much pressure on yourself. You have plenty of time to work this all out. And, unlike some people, a good support network
Finally, ALWAYS wear a condom. Unless you are in a long term, fully monogamous relationship with someone you can 100% trust, it would be stupid to do otherwise. There are a range of different diseases you could pick up besides AIDS anyway.
Good luck!
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