Im not sure if Im gay straight or bi????

[Cuddly]

I didn't say he could decide what his profound sexuality was. I was saying that he could decide whether he thinks himself gay or not, which is different.
Some people may be gay and decide not to call themselves gay. Some people may not be gay and decide to call themselves gay. There is the same dimension here in the conscious decision to label oneself, akin, probably, to the decision to call yourself a male when you are classified as female, or the contrary. With that conscious decision comes the mental issues or the mental wellbeing of knowing where you think you stand, regardless of what your profound sexuality might really be.

Sure. I know you know that. I wanted to make sure the OP did too.