12-04-2010, 04:03 AM
Hi phoenix,
really feeling you there, felt exactly the same when I tried to venture into my boyfriend's old world. Clubbing per se isn't too bad but I've noticed gay clubs are less aggressive but also more bitchy; you're not gonna get in a fight but you might get a lot of sneers.
Given that you've already tried online dating I don't know what to suggest; depending on your area there are alternative gay nights a user on here recommended to me; being a metal fan and into films I felt pretty much the same. I think the only way to really blend in is to fight through the pain barrier and just keep going out until you feel comfortable with it. It's like the savannah out there, people pick up on fear and discomfort (like me telling you that will make you relax!) ... once you feel relaxed and comfortable you'll be matching your mate step for step.
Best of luck mate.
really feeling you there, felt exactly the same when I tried to venture into my boyfriend's old world. Clubbing per se isn't too bad but I've noticed gay clubs are less aggressive but also more bitchy; you're not gonna get in a fight but you might get a lot of sneers.
Given that you've already tried online dating I don't know what to suggest; depending on your area there are alternative gay nights a user on here recommended to me; being a metal fan and into films I felt pretty much the same. I think the only way to really blend in is to fight through the pain barrier and just keep going out until you feel comfortable with it. It's like the savannah out there, people pick up on fear and discomfort (like me telling you that will make you relax!) ... once you feel relaxed and comfortable you'll be matching your mate step for step.
Best of luck mate.
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