12-16-2010, 08:00 PM
@ OrphanPip
I would not mind, nor be surprised that he thought I was straight (even my boyfriend sometimes thinks I am straight). It was that he assumed it, not just suspected it.
It's not a question of heteronormativity, we are both gay. If it's a question of anything it's whether it's normal to be gay and 'straight acting'.
Good question, to which I don't have a good answer. I suppose it's because I feel that a gay man should know better than make assumptions about other peoples sexuality. I realise I am holding him to a higher standard than I would hold a straight man which isn't really fair.
I would not mind, nor be surprised that he thought I was straight (even my boyfriend sometimes thinks I am straight). It was that he assumed it, not just suspected it.
It's not a question of heteronormativity, we are both gay. If it's a question of anything it's whether it's normal to be gay and 'straight acting'.
rsconceptions Wrote:Fred, why does it bother you that he assumed you were straight?
Good question, to which I don't have a good answer. I suppose it's because I feel that a gay man should know better than make assumptions about other peoples sexuality. I realise I am holding him to a higher standard than I would hold a straight man which isn't really fair.
Fred
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