Long relationship but lacking sex...HELP!

[marshlander]

You don't say how old he is. Could that have a bearing on the situation? In the early days of a relationship one often steps up the amount of sex and as the relationship settles the amount of sex falls back to what feels normal. Maybe he feels the urge less often? From "a lot" to once a week or less is a bit dramatic though. Even if he is not seeing someone else there is something going on to divert his attentions away from you. Does he understand your worries? It may just be that he finds it difficult to muster the energy, although I am a little surprised that he doesn't seem to want to do it to help you. Health issues, stress, depression, ongoing medication, family and work worries are some of the things that can affect libido.