Horribly Humiliating. I'm Losing Faith with People.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I also don't know why I keep on bumping into jackass and douche guys

I fear that's because a decent chunk of humanity are jackasses and douchebags.

Its sort of like trying to not get rained on when running through a typhoon....

There is no easy answer to who you can and cannot trust. Those jerks usually come off with a nice mask of charm, hiding pure evil inside.

Don't stop being a good guy because of the losers in the world. You will miss out on the being good to the good people.

DO take care with what you say, and how much you reveal. You did say too much to this Chris in that letter. I do not recall any of us suggesting you tell everything, and if we lead you to believe that you should reveal all at once, that was totally our bad and we should have clarified and urged some caution.

I'm giving up in finding a guy. I've had enough.

Hmm - there are good guys - real good guys, in the world. They are hard to see due to the heavy rain of asshats and idiots, but they are out there.

Look, you are a good guy - there is some truth to the old adage 'good guys finish last' - get used to this notion. Also get used to the idea that as a good guy you become an easy target to the asshats of the world. They do not like you because YOU ARE a good guy. You remind them that they are not so good, so they will resort to doing nasty things to make themselves feel better than you, which usually means they will only reveal even more how un-good they really are.

I take it that most of these people have seen your personal transformation in whole or in part, this also breeds jealousy. You have shown remarkable will and strength of character which will bring out the very worst in the worst. Again they are uncomfortably reminded that they are not up to par, thus they will take great 'satisfaction' from hurting you to make themselves feel better than you. This is their problem, not your problem.

Remain steady and strong, overcome and sail by, let them see that their worst does not diminish you, let them see that it only strengthens your resolve to be better and actually you are better than them.