dont exactly know what to do here

[BobInTampa]

So tell me if i got this right. YOu joined the Marines as a closeted gay man, lived and acted as a str8 man, met a woman, and to complete the illusion, you convinced yourself that you were in love with a woman, got married, had a baby, and now you've come to the full acceptance that you are gay - but everyone sees you has a str8 man?

WHile i empathize with your situation, it's not uncommon. I did something very similar (tho i didn't join the military) - lived as str8, dated and fucked women, met a gal, got married, had a kid, bought a house, the dog, cat, picket fence. Then, like you, the time came where i had to be honest with myself and i got divorced.

So, coming out? Guess what, you have only 3 options:
1) Stay in the closet after you divorce and meet and date men on the DL and work every day to keep your life and relationships a secret from your friends and family.
2) Move out of your town after the divorce (hopefully close enough to still be a father to your child) and start your life over as a single, gay, dad.
3) Suck it up, come out to family, friends and work through it. Based on your post, your wife seems to be pretty supportive and as long as the divorce dosen't change her attitude, having her supporting you as you come out will make things much easier.

You thoughts?