dont exactly know what to do here

[LateBloomer]

on the more relationship slant
okcupid.com
on the hookup side
grinder, scruff, there are quite a few hookup sites

volunteer at a local GLBT center, avoid craigslist

your first impression of a boy is usually correct so be selective. Avoid married boys. Get your self tested often. Learn everything there is to know about how to maintain your health too. the HIV can really reduce you live span, infect that girl friend too. There is a hep a/b vaccination out there.

you must think in terms of cleaning up your current relationship before starting a new one. It will really limit your dating experience, and it should. There is a lot positive about a gay man who is open. The gay population is small so take care of the impression you make in the gay community.

a girl friend is a great resource for a gay man
date someone within 10years of your age, unless really know what your doing.

Good advice.

I'm sympathetic to namc, not because I lived a similar straight lifestyle (no wife/kid here) but by and large, I'm perceived as straight in my community.

I've written elsewhere about a guy I've been seeing in a town far from me. We've talked about my "need" (his word) for "socializing with gays".

He's totally out in every sense and very involved in the local gay community, participating in "Pride" events, etc...

I told him, I enjoy meeting people and I can be "socialable" and I'm looking forward to meeting his friends, but I've never been one to join a damn parade.



It's just not my STYLE.

I bring this up because like most things, I think there's a happy medium, where we come out and "interact" with the community, but if you're not into dressing up and marching down Main St. I don't think that should be held against you.

I'm also considering a relocation to this particular city where this guys lives, mostly to be closer to him, but simultaneously in order to get myself out of the RUT I have created for myself.

Change is healthy and good.
Good luck.