New- relationship-scared of losing bf

[pellaz]

... I know I'm attractive but I'm no model

Talk to him to figure his preferences for say body hair, does he want you to take a second shower in the evening, are your teeth white enough? What type of cologne and or clothing would he like you to wear. Make a day of it and take him along, goto some bargain second had shops and buy some simple vintage designer clothing, buy him a small thing too. Again talk to him about your body, how does it fit his dream boy. Say to him you want a gym partner, talk it up at the gym. You guys will have eathother's attention and its a good time to communicate

... I don't think I have as much to offer him ...

Tell him that, while you are doing this give him a inexpensive gift (flowers). Let him tell you how wrong you are and list the things he sees in you. Respect

... i met his friends

Have you met his parents? If not have him meet yours. This could be important if your out to them.

... nor do I have my own place

offer to move in, share the expenses you experience now, do house hold chores. For your self love develop an exit plan if things go bad.

... It's going to take me longer to graduate as I am studying medicine, while he's studying engineering. He'll graduate and have a job as I still have a couple more years of school.

Would he be willing to try out for a MS. In you area are there employers for the branch of engineering he is in to. Could you move your credits to the city he gets his first job in?? Work it out with him way before it starts to happen. On the positive side engineering entry salaries are very high. With your graduation money will not be an issue for you two.

...I'm so terrified he's going to leave me

Dont become paranoid he is going to leave. its not a bad that he knows your feelings on this. Trust.

... I'm getting attached to him.

He dosnt know this enough. Tell him, text him ever couple of hours "i love you", every day. But most of all just let go fall in love, tell him you are doing this. When you feel you are ready put a ring on it. serious.


I guess this is my vision of your situation, not enough information so if anything here is accurate?

Just make sure both of you want a relationship, they are a lot of work. For example my self finds it difficult to put my partner's needs and or the needs of the couple ahead of mine. Sometimes my partner dosnt say a lot and that gets me paranoid. Maybe a relationship is about communication, respect, trust... as things go along consider a gay couples training.

I really dont think being in a relationship changes the individual. I lived alone for my first 40 years, lived in a straight marriage for 15 and now with my partner. It all feels the same. I am a stronger individual and can accomplish more in a partnered situation.