Dealing with negative partners

[YetAnother]

There is nothing like having a sit down with your loved with a nice cup of tea and just talking, talking talking, it helps...

yes, there's something to be said for that.

try and discuss it as openly with him as you have with us -when he's in a better mood.
and try the "negative nancy" tactic. barring a complete 180 after that,
you might look seriously into the CC.
some work on a sliding scale -although where you live can be a big factor,
try the government mental health connections in the phone book -but don't mention the gay at first.
a lot of local gay establishments/papers or free weekly papers may have insight that we could not provide here.
meaning that local gay-friendly CC could be found through them.
it's not always super expensive. you won't know for sure until you look.
if nothing else, I wish you both luck.