Sexual Differences

[pellaz]

... I am not big on anal sex and I usually prefer fronting, mutual j/o, etc. Now my boyfriend can only come when jerking off or topping ...

Try to make the experience super easy for him and the best sex he has had in his life. You may need to be the bottom more often than you like. See if you can top him, something new. Its not a porn video so perfection not necessary. Never wear anything in bed. Take 15-20 minutes and massage, maybe oil too, his whole body till he is soooo relaxed, get him used to your touch. just give w/o reciprocation for a while. Have everything ready and close by. Take a shower before bed.

... He is also one of the least sexual bf Ive ever had. I love him to death and I will go 10+ days without sex.

Again talk to him on the issue. A possible reason is we are forced to suppress who we are for so long its easy to become asexual. Can i say both of you are not jonsing to try new stuff?
be patient, understanding. It will take a long time for new habits to set in.

So I should probably go to a shrink for a lot of this

Couples counseling can help. Start small, watch some stuff on youtube (Davey Wavey like), look for an inexpensive group session. I feel un comfortable doing this with straight couples. Look for a couples counselor that specializes with the gays.