08-08-2014, 02:53 PM
UPDATE
To anyone who is interested.
I have a few friends who are policemen, and I spoke to one of them earlier today.
I explained the story in as much detail as I could and asked him for his advice.
He said in the eyes of the law, what happened was technically assault. However going through the legal system could potentially cause more harm than good. Seeing the guy a second time seriously weakens my case and it would be a matter of my word against his. And apparently his defence would give me a hard time. He said I should be greatful nothing worse happened that it did and I came through it all ok.
So I agree with that.
He also advised me against telling my boyfriend. After hearing his reasoning I think I will follow his advice.
Telling my boyfriend will be opening a can of worms as if he believes me, he'll be wanting to know who the guy is which can then lead to going down the whole legal route, because obviously the guy will defend himself.
If the guy decided to brag about anything that happened for the benefit of his own ego, and my boyfriend were to find out then I've been instructed to show my boyfriend the conversation with the policeman.
Unless there seems to be a good reason for it, I think I will keep this to myself as there is no need to upset the man I love, over one nasty guy who tried to have his way with me.
I feel so much pressure lifted off me. I feel better about this now. I acted in good faith looking for friendship and he abused that. In the words of my friend I've "only acted how you did out of fear of the situation". He couldn't take no for an answer, and that is not my fault.
I hope other people will read this and take something from this experience.
To anyone who is interested.
I have a few friends who are policemen, and I spoke to one of them earlier today.
I explained the story in as much detail as I could and asked him for his advice.
He said in the eyes of the law, what happened was technically assault. However going through the legal system could potentially cause more harm than good. Seeing the guy a second time seriously weakens my case and it would be a matter of my word against his. And apparently his defence would give me a hard time. He said I should be greatful nothing worse happened that it did and I came through it all ok.
So I agree with that.
He also advised me against telling my boyfriend. After hearing his reasoning I think I will follow his advice.
Telling my boyfriend will be opening a can of worms as if he believes me, he'll be wanting to know who the guy is which can then lead to going down the whole legal route, because obviously the guy will defend himself.
If the guy decided to brag about anything that happened for the benefit of his own ego, and my boyfriend were to find out then I've been instructed to show my boyfriend the conversation with the policeman.
Unless there seems to be a good reason for it, I think I will keep this to myself as there is no need to upset the man I love, over one nasty guy who tried to have his way with me.
I feel so much pressure lifted off me. I feel better about this now. I acted in good faith looking for friendship and he abused that. In the words of my friend I've "only acted how you did out of fear of the situation". He couldn't take no for an answer, and that is not my fault.
I hope other people will read this and take something from this experience.