Sexual Differences

[LateBloomer]

I'm not sure if the last post made it or not but I may be repeating a post. I apologize.

It's not an asexual thing. hell masturbate to porn because to him masturbating and topping is the only way for him to reach maximum pleasure. I've even asked to come get me when he gets the urge.

I am all about making sure that he is fully pleasured. He says that he just wants it to happen. But neither of us have a normal sleep schedule. We never just get a chance to lay down together.
I told him he can top but he's afraid to understandably because I have an internal hemmaroid.

I'm all about pleasuring him. Usually when we do do it, I just jerk him off because its what je says feels best.

I honestly think it has everyhing to do with his view of sex as just a way to get off. While I feel that it is a much more meaningful almost spiritual bond between two people.

I don't know, but it sounds like there are definitely issues about intimacy.

I'm wondering if he shows you ANY OTHER FORMS of intimacy? Kissing, cuddling, touching? Those are *physical* forms of intimacy. How about psychological intimacy? Does he share ideas, dreams, opinions? Does he have a "pet name" for you?

He could have an addiction to porn which is preventing him from expressing any REAL intimacy. If so, that's not really a difference in sex drives, but a fear of being close to a real person.

As already suggested, couples counseling -- or just some good old fashioned heart to heart conversation may be in order.

Best of luck, please keep us updated.