Sexual Differences

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he will masturbate to porn because to him masturbating and topping is the only way for him to reach maximum pleasure. I've even asked to come get me when he gets the urge.

-Go the other way; you said he is not careful how he downloads the stuff so buy a small junk computer and let him download all he wants. Be with him while he does this.

... I told him he can top but he's afraid to understandably because I have an internal hemorrhoid ...

I assume the internal hemorrhoid is where he can get to it during sex, your doctor knows your gay. Find a medical office recommended by the local LGBT organization and look at getting it fixed? In that it might be able to be done with out a big fuss. I know medical care in the US is inconsistent and or expensive? Think of this as something you need to do for your self not your partner, a more pro active treatment.

... Neither of us have a normal sleep schedule. We never just get a chance to lay down together ... I honestly think it has everyhing to do with his view of sex as just a way to get off. While I feel that it is a much more meaningful almost spiritual bond between two people.

I bet both of you are dead exhausted after work. You will not have that spiritual bond you need if your not in good shape, pass out asleep in 3min after lying down.