Relationship (and sex) with a transman

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Just a thought here, but maybe someone has already said this... It seems to me that Transgendered people are mostly concerned with changing the person THEY are so it's basically an interior battle against the gender they were delivered at birth...

There are also hermaphrodites, some who are born with both sexes and will at some point, probably, need to identify as one or the other gender, and then there are gay men and lesbian women, who are quite happy with their own bodies but who can't project their love and desire onto the other sex...

So to me it's a difference between looking inward or outward. They gay man looks outward for another self. The transsexual looks inward to changing that self into something else. They are two completely different pursuits...

Once the inner identity of each person has been clearly understood, then only is it possible to see whether they are gay or not, ie projecting their affection onto the same gender or the opposite sex.

Therefore it is possible for a transgendered person to be (whether operated or not) gay or straight... Marsh knows a person in that case, so I guess it happens.

The two questions are: Who am I?
and Who do / can I love?

So this would come up as 8 conjectures but only about three categories:
I am a man who identifies as a man + I love a female = straight
I am a man who identifies as a woman + I love a female = lesbian
I am a man who identifies as a man + I love a male = gay
I am a man who identifies as a woman + I love a male = straight
I am a woman who identifies as a man + I love a female = straight
I am a woman who identifies as a man + I love a male = gay
I am a woman who identifies as a woman + I love a female = lesbian
I am a woman who identifies as a woman + I love a male = straight
and then there would be those who identify as men or women regardless of their birth gender who are happy loving either sex, who are bisexuals...