Relationship (and sex) with a transman

[azulai]

What a man has down there is a big deal to you, isn't it? I don't mean to be too personal asking you this. If you're not going to have anal sex with the man you like, is genital still an issue?

Like I said I'm not happy with where I am on this and maybe additional years and reading the thoughts of others that I respect might help me broaden my view. Yes, the whole package is a big deal to me. I even tried to view things from the point that there's no guarantee that a man with a penis is fully functional or will always be.

I think we all have personal turn-ons. My original answer did not just pertain to anal sex. I am visually stimulated by the male body (hair, shoulders, thighs, penis, balls and glorious ass). I am also tactilely stimulated by certain actions and psychologically simulated by certain actions. For example, the feeling/seeing/rubbing of another guy getting hard in his jeans would be something that I would not be experiencing in the scenario you originally stated* but is a powerful turn-on for ME. That's just one and not a TMI example but there are others, like frot, seeing/feeling your guy cum, etc.

*ftm, no lower surgery

There is so much to exploring a lover. Mind, heart, soul and body -- all those have to come together to spark this thing called love for me. But, encountering a vagina is not in my comfort zone. Knowing myself as I am right now, the relationship could not meet needs that I have and I wouldn't pursue it. Friendship, yes, definitely.

This is just from my perspective and I am very much wondering if it's more due to my identifying as exclusively homo.