02-06-2012, 12:08 PM
From my own experience.
To have a good self esteem, you need to stop worrying about yourself and what other may think about you. You really need to say, "Fu** it!
See the problem here?
Guys/girls love someone who is confident and can carry himself. You don't need to be a supermodel to attract lots of people. You can be anything less than perfect.
When you go to a club, do not think about baiting and attracting a guy. You go to a club to have fun and dance your butt off. Again, stop worrying about yourself and what other may think about you. Exhibit your confidence and fun side of you whilst dancing and socializing. Again, guys/girls love a confident person.
I give you one example ...
People say I have a nice look but unfortunately I injured my left leg due to my stupidity (I was a kid). My left leg bends a bit now due to the injury. One of my aunts once said, "Pity. He has such a good look but with ... that leg."
There was a point in my life where I was down due to my injured leg. But then I've had enough and said, "Fuc* it!". I still dance my butt off, run everyday etc. My 'poor' leg doesn't bother me at all.
I'm still being approached by guys even though I have this so called poor leg. Not bad, huh?
My point is confidence defeats all your weaknesses and attract many because of your high self esteem.
To have a good self esteem, you need to stop worrying about yourself and what other may think about you. You really need to say, "Fu** it!
Quote:Ive always been exceptionally touchy about looks. I am in my twenties and never had a relationship, and given that *most* lads and girls, gay or straight have had a relationship by that age, there feels something hugely wrong with me, it makes me feel like i am a freak. People i know say there is nothing wrong with my looks or personality - - - but doesnt the evidence say otherwise? I cant seem to attract anyone, and it depresses the hell out of me.
Ive been invited to go out to a nightclub, but am kind of dreading it for this reason. I dont and wont go to nightclub to "pull" but if the people im going with do, and no one is interested in me, i know it will make me flip, and feel so ugly, unattractive and worthless - because this is a very touchy subject for me. I'll probably go off in a huff or bad mood then. I guess id like to know that one - just one - guy on this planet actually thinks im good looking.
See the problem here?
Guys/girls love someone who is confident and can carry himself. You don't need to be a supermodel to attract lots of people. You can be anything less than perfect.
When you go to a club, do not think about baiting and attracting a guy. You go to a club to have fun and dance your butt off. Again, stop worrying about yourself and what other may think about you. Exhibit your confidence and fun side of you whilst dancing and socializing. Again, guys/girls love a confident person.
I give you one example ...
People say I have a nice look but unfortunately I injured my left leg due to my stupidity (I was a kid). My left leg bends a bit now due to the injury. One of my aunts once said, "Pity. He has such a good look but with ... that leg."
There was a point in my life where I was down due to my injured leg. But then I've had enough and said, "Fuc* it!". I still dance my butt off, run everyday etc. My 'poor' leg doesn't bother me at all.
I'm still being approached by guys even though I have this so called poor leg. Not bad, huh?
My point is confidence defeats all your weaknesses and attract many because of your high self esteem.
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