02-09-2012, 09:15 PM
I know my advice is not usually welcome on this subject but in case it will help....I would just put the cheating aside and mentally and emotionally compartmentalize and just forget about it and instead deal with the the situation as a lie. Focus on the lie because when you focus on the cheating it can be emotional and you will maybe be vulnerable to emotional blackmail and manipulation. A lie is much easier to confront.
If you can get past the cheating BEFORE you bring it up you will have gold in your pocket. Cheating NEVER has anything to do with the person being cheated on and so many people make the mistake of slipping into a victim mode (whats wrong with me? what did I do?...blah blah blah).. the REAL issue is the lie in my opinion. I think alot of people waste time playing out the first scenario when they should be focused on the lie.
He is putting your life at risk. You need to confront this.
If you can get past the cheating BEFORE you bring it up you will have gold in your pocket. Cheating NEVER has anything to do with the person being cheated on and so many people make the mistake of slipping into a victim mode (whats wrong with me? what did I do?...blah blah blah).. the REAL issue is the lie in my opinion. I think alot of people waste time playing out the first scenario when they should be focused on the lie.
He is putting your life at risk. You need to confront this.
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