02-10-2012, 12:43 AM
Well. welcome to GS . . . and people of all different sexualities (straight, bi, gay, lesbian, etc.) and life experiences are welcome here as long as they are respectful of others.
I am sorry to hear about what is going on with your husband, as others have said, cheating is cheating, and you should not have to put up with it. Having said that, having 3 children and no employment does complicate things for you. But, you are certainly not the first woman to experience this, so you are not alone at all. Remember that.
It is true that children tend to be healthier and better adjusted when they have two parents raising them in a loving home. If he was beating you or in any other way abusive to you or your children, I would be yelling at the top of my lungs to get out of the situation. But, there are alternatives to separation and divorce when it comes to infidelity. I highly suggest counseling for you and your husband. You should at least see if you can work past your current difficulties. He needs to be confronted about his behaviors and held responsible for them. He needs to realize that he is hurting you emotionally and, even worse, that he is putting your health at risk by having these casual flings with men and women.
It is hard to know if he is gay, bi, or simply straight with some curiosity. All of those things are potentialities. There is such a thing as latent homosexuality, and there are people who just have a curiosity they need to fulfill. It runs the gamut.
You need to get to the heart of the problem, and that is going to mean hard work for both you and your husband.
I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide. Big hugs.
I am sorry to hear about what is going on with your husband, as others have said, cheating is cheating, and you should not have to put up with it. Having said that, having 3 children and no employment does complicate things for you. But, you are certainly not the first woman to experience this, so you are not alone at all. Remember that.
It is true that children tend to be healthier and better adjusted when they have two parents raising them in a loving home. If he was beating you or in any other way abusive to you or your children, I would be yelling at the top of my lungs to get out of the situation. But, there are alternatives to separation and divorce when it comes to infidelity. I highly suggest counseling for you and your husband. You should at least see if you can work past your current difficulties. He needs to be confronted about his behaviors and held responsible for them. He needs to realize that he is hurting you emotionally and, even worse, that he is putting your health at risk by having these casual flings with men and women.
It is hard to know if he is gay, bi, or simply straight with some curiosity. All of those things are potentialities. There is such a thing as latent homosexuality, and there are people who just have a curiosity they need to fulfill. It runs the gamut.
You need to get to the heart of the problem, and that is going to mean hard work for both you and your husband.
I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide. Big hugs.
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