I met two guys tonight and need to get your advice on what to make of it?

[East]

To the OP...read what Bowyn Aerrow says above...it might save your life

[dlboy53]

As I first stated there is something totally not safe here with these guys. But if You have to see them again be blunt with then and ask what their angle is. As far as I know I don't think than any guy straight or gay talks about whether they wear boxers or briefs within a few meetings so that would be my first real big red flag. I'm sure you can come up with some point blank questions that they would have to answer that either would help bring their intent forward or make it where you know for a fact that there is something not right.


Please be safe

[pellaz]

nothing good happens past 11pm, especially not 4-5am. Limit your exposure to bad radiation.

if you do this again you may consider telling a local friend about this, describe the boys as best as you can to him her, use the friend to report back. This is that dangerous. Is this VietNam where you can pick up who ever and use them as a pet.

get their reaction:
next meeting you have with them, tell them you are gay. Tell them you want to marry someone in the future and adopt many children. Have a physical exit plan for that.

[Sylph]

I agree with Bowyn Aerrow.

You have two random guys, suddenly interested in you. The first thing we're taught here, is to be wary of people, especially outside of our little island.

We are close knit, so we know who's who and what's what, but out there, you can never be sure, because there are so many dangerous and sick people out there. We have sick people, but we know who they are, you don't.

Personally, I would never let someone approach me when I'm on my own, I get people trying to stop me all the time, but you have to keep going. It's not being unfriendly, it's being cautious. Unless you're comfortable being alone or are in a crowded place, then maybe it's okay, but I personally feel safer with a friend.

Why would two guys who claim to not be gay, keep bringing it up and mentioning somewhat gay related subjects? Obviously to gauge you. No two normal gay guys, or straight guys for that matter, would share with you their personal details.

Also, offering you a ride, when they you don't even know each other that well? They could easily take you somewhere remote and kill/rape you or vice versa, you could kill or rape them, so why would either of you take the risk? Unless they have something up their sleeves, they wouldn't take the risk. I got in a car once, and got lucky, but a few years ago, a young girl was raped and murdered and tossed in the trees. Don't assume you're safe.

As for the girl thing, she could either be a cover up and not even know whats going on or she could be in on whatever it is and be trying to make you feel more comfortable by bringing a feminine energy to the situation. There are some sick women out there too, so don't assume that, just because a woman is there, that everything is okay. If anything, ask her about the guys and what not. If she has nothing to hide, then she will tell you.

My personal advice would be, don't see them again, unless you're going to;
1)Ask them out right, why they are so interested in you
2)Ask why it's always the two of them
3)State that you're uncomfortable and they should be willing to back off
4)Make sure you're always in a public place and don't go anywhere alone with either or both of them

And if you don't want to do these things, then immediately cut off all ties. They should let you go if you feel uncomfortable and if not, then call the police. Don't let them follow you home, keep everything that can trace them to you, to yourself.

Being safe and cautious, is not being unfriendly and unapproachable. If a guy was really interested in you, there wouldn't be all these games and strong advances and personal disclosures of his information. But beware, even the seemingly nice guys can turn out to be worse than the two your with now.

Follow your gut, and stay safe. My grandmother always says "Follow your first mind" , because ignoring it usually can get you in trouble and sometimes killed.

[Nick9]

I can't believe it's only been 14 hours since Seeker was here. Reading all your posts and warnings, it seems like ages for me

[HollandofFrance]

I agree that something fishy seems to be going on.
Seeker they already tried to get you in a car once. That's not good.
Also they say that people mistake as gay not that they are gay, if they liked you why would they say they're mistaken for being gay?
I'd just stay away if I were you

Holland, what on Earth does autism have to do with any of this?

welll......https://www.google.com/search?q=autistic...=firefox-a

[HollandofFrance]

im schizo affective and or autistic ive done a few dumb things lacking common sense maybe i think

[HollandofFrance]

just found these

[Nick9]

welll......https://www.google.com/search?q=autistic...=firefox-a

Sorry Holland, but even though I skimmed through some of the articles I still don't see a connection with this thread. You do?
I admit that I don't believe in autistic and gay connection either. But it might be just me.

[zeon]

hello,
By the sounds of it the glancing back is a way of him checking you out to be honest... The thing is looking at eye candy and taking it can be two different things i would pertsonally if u suspect they are partners allow one to see if they make a move and then take it from there and if the other catches and goes mad u have a get out of jail card ready to say excuse me but he was the one coming onto me not the other way round lol

kindest regards

zedon x