03-11-2012, 04:56 PM
After 14 years of being with the same man, I can assure you that there are long periods of misery in relationships, followed by periods of passion - or just mere lacking.
You get good years and you get bad years, you hope that it will end up on a great year.
Partners are supposed to be always having a power struggle - supposed to. There are new challenges and situations that crop up with life (part of the point of living I assume) that challenge the dynamics of relationships and cause the couple to seek a new balance under new situations.
You both still love each other and want to be friends - that is what a relationship is really all about.
I would strongly suggest couple's counseling - A few months of that and you two will have new tools in order to open up real communication and most likely will have a much better understanding of the dynamics of how relationships work in general and more importantly how your relationship works.
No it won't be perfect, no it won't be all sunshine and jelly beans and beer. It will be grimy, hard-work with lots of blood shed and tears. As they years progress there is less blood and tears :tongue:
Are you the bad guy for wanting happiness? No. Are you the bad guy for bringing home other guys to fuck - yeah, sure.
Trust me, no relationship you will get into will be 100% happiness all the time. Most are usually only 5% happiness, with about 10% pure anger and grief the rest is about finding levels of contentment, compromising constantly on all things and accepting some things that you normally wouldn't accept from most people.
You get good years and you get bad years, you hope that it will end up on a great year.
Partners are supposed to be always having a power struggle - supposed to. There are new challenges and situations that crop up with life (part of the point of living I assume) that challenge the dynamics of relationships and cause the couple to seek a new balance under new situations.
You both still love each other and want to be friends - that is what a relationship is really all about.
I would strongly suggest couple's counseling - A few months of that and you two will have new tools in order to open up real communication and most likely will have a much better understanding of the dynamics of how relationships work in general and more importantly how your relationship works.
No it won't be perfect, no it won't be all sunshine and jelly beans and beer. It will be grimy, hard-work with lots of blood shed and tears. As they years progress there is less blood and tears :tongue:
Are you the bad guy for wanting happiness? No. Are you the bad guy for bringing home other guys to fuck - yeah, sure.
Trust me, no relationship you will get into will be 100% happiness all the time. Most are usually only 5% happiness, with about 10% pure anger and grief the rest is about finding levels of contentment, compromising constantly on all things and accepting some things that you normally wouldn't accept from most people.