Hi there!
Ever hear of the Five Stages of Grief? It is also called the Kübler-Ross model:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model
The stages:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
While the 5 stages are mostly applied to death and dying, these actually apply to any 'shocking' change in our world order. Lost/Losing a job - 5 stages rush in. Breaking up with your SO? % stages rush in. Someone comes out gay to you - 5 Stages. Car is stolen 5 stages...
Granted the magnitude and how long we go through each stage varies from circumstance to circumstance, we all do this line dance.
Maybe not in the order of appearance, thus anger may be the first response, or bargaining (
You just haven't met the right girl yet) or depression...
Your friends are going through the
process toward acceptance. So yes, Denial will be there - bargaining with you (
Oh just find that right girl)... Anger may be the first response.
Understand that up until you opened your mouth they most likely thought you were straight. If you are a so called 'straight acting' person, you not only have shaken their understanding of you, but most likely have hit a hard blow at their myth-conceptions of what being 'gay' is. No one likes their world view to be up-turned, we need a period of adjustment.
The closer they are to you the more they may react.
For instance Parents are usually the hardest ones to reach acceptance but remember, from before you were born they were building up this internal world of what your life would be, which due to the pressures of society and their own internal programming would be a straight life, you getting married, having kids, that house, that perfect job, blah.
Coming out 'gay' to them makes them have to rethink a lifetime of notions they had about their children.
It all swings back to the 5 stages, folk need time to process.
Give it time.