Just wanna have sex

[Jason74]

I have been single for maybe 8+ years and just haven't had any interest in dating anyone and I have been the same way and have maybe had sex like 4 or 5 times during that time. Yeah I know that is not that many times in 8 years, but I have just not had the desire to do so and when it does come up I will jerk off thinking about guys and then I am good.

Now I am at a new job location and its rather remote and all I can think about is sex with a guy and how bad I would love to suck some guy off or have him suck me, rim some ass or get my cock deep in some ass or a guys cock deep inside me. Its like I have tried to masturbate but it just hasn't helped. I am living like 3 hours from San Francisco and I know they have a few sex clubs where my desires can be solved very quick but 3 hours to have sex makes no sense.

I want to try and find locals where I am that are gay but I just don't want to meet them so I can have sex with them, I want something more as well. Even though I need cock really badly right now and masturbation is just not cutting it right now. I just am not sure what to do. I am going to SF in 2 months for pride but I don't think I can handle not having cock until then, yet I have gone for 2 years not having cock so I am sure 2 months won't be that hard.

Anyone have any advice on where to look to meet gay guys in remote areas? I just have no clue where to start

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Modesto is the closest thing to a 'big city' where you are.

There is the Bravebull Club/Bar which is the oldest and only strictly LGBT bar. http://www.yelp.com/biz/brave-bull-modesto

It is on the not so good side of town - not the really bad side of town - but bad enough. I haven't been there in over a decade. It was pretty much a mixed LGBT crowd with the occasional group of straight kids coming to see what gay was all about. :biggrin:

The Tiki Lounge is mixed: http://www.yelp.com/biz/tiki-cocktail-lounge-modesto It is being reported as a 'gay bar' but I know a lot of the straight kids go there. I have never been there myself.

My nieces tell me its a 'cleaner' establishment than the Bravebull - cleaner means far less drug sales, floors actually mopped occasionally....

We have our 'Pride Center' http://www.stanislauspridecenter.com/ It serves Stanislaus and surrounding counties...

Sacramento has a 'gay scene' its not as large as San Francisco, but it exists.

Sacramento: http://sacramento.gaycities.com/bars/
Fresno: http://www.gayfresno.com/clubs-bars
Stockton/Modesto: http://www.yelp.com/search?find_desc=Gay...kton%2C+CA

In all honesty you are in the conservative part of California. Pretty much anything east of the Coastal mountains is conservative - more conservative the further east you go. Word to the wise - Be Careful. I take it you are a straight acting gay man. Keep acting straight until you get to know the person you are dealing with.

Sonora, Turlock and the various small towns have no 'gay scene'. Sorry.

We Country Gays are pretty much all hooked up with partners, or we go to Sacramento or San Francisco to meet other gays.

[Watermark]

I know the feeling but sadly can't help you. Don't know anything about the area you are at the moment.

Cold shower maybe? :frown:

[pellaz]

Dont go below your standards either, just invites bad regrets.

look on the hook up sites, m4m, gay.com, be specific what you are looking for.

[Jason74]

Yeah I am not one to just settle so the longer I have to keep it inside and not be out and about that is fine and can wait to get my freak on when I head to SF in June, lol.

[Story]

Sometimes you can find an online camera buddy who'll do a show for you. Granted neither of you can touch each other sometimes that can help just seeing the other person

[princealbertofb]

Good luck with finding what you're after, Jason...