05-16-2016, 06:37 PM
Hi im new here and I need your advice. This will be LONG! So... I have an online bestfriend that I've met for almost a year now. We've considered each other as bestfriends. He's gay too. We've talked almost everyday for a year now. We would talk for hours! From day to night. Sometimes watching a movie while skyping or playing games.. I live in USA and he lived in Europe. Now he moved to Canada for his studies last January. But we havent met yet tho we plan to in June.
Now here's the problem. Ever since he came to Canada, he's been hooking up with guys alot. Like almost 3x a week, with different guys! He's using grindr and his life pretty much revolves around that app now. He tells me his sex stories and at first I was kinda disgusted. I found it very indecent because im not really that kind of person. And I didn't like that he's turned into like a bottom wh*re who sleeps with everyone and gets f*cked by anyone.
However as time goes by, I tolerated his activities. I was ok with it. After all he still kept talking to me and made time for me. And I cant control him anyway. He's a bit of a nymphomaniac. Plus He has anxiety and has trouble making friends. So he's using the app to make friends and to cope up with his loneliness since he's alone in Canada without family.
Anyway, so we kept our friendship well until recently he barely talks to me now. I feel like he doesnt care about me now. All he cares is about himself and sex. He takes me for granted. Like last month, we were supposed to skype for my birthday but instead he hooked up with someone and let me down. We had a fight about that but I forgave him. But now Im getting pissed off again because I thought he'll make up for that and make more time for me again. But he never did. He always ignores my message and doesn't talk to me. I have had alot of stories that I wanted to tell him but time passed and I just had to forget them. It's irritating. He prefers talking to his grindr friends and having sex even more.
So now, I wanna leave him and forget him. I wanna delete him from my life. Like literally just block him and disappear. Would it make me bad? He doesn't need me anyway and im tired of him letting me down. And I don't wanna be friends with him anymore. If he prefers his sex friends then so be it!
Additional:
I also began getting disgusted with him again. I guess I never really accepted his activities. Just tolerated. But now I cant. I mean his life is all about grindr and sex. And it's even becoming worse. He's done threesomes now and probably soon he can do an orgy. And I find that really nasty to be honest. I don't wanna be associated with someone like that.... He also has a new facebook and has 30 friends (and counting) which are all from grindr and he had sex with. And that really makes me feel weird and uncomfortable. He even plans to take one of them with him when he visits me here. And i really don't wanna meet any of his sex friends because I think they're indecent people who are desperate and have low lives.
Lastly, he never really planned to meet me here in my place. He doesn't like my city and he always tells me that I should be the one to visit him in Canada. He'll only come to me because he's meeting this guy he met on grindr, who now lives in a nearby state to mine. And he just plans to stop over by my place. So it kinda pissed me off again that he would travel to Usa to meet this sex friend but he wont do it for me. Like im just a secondary purpose. Which is another reason why i wanna leave him too!
Anyway that's all. Sorry for such long message! And im sorry if I have such a negative opinion about people who uses Grindr.
Now here's the problem. Ever since he came to Canada, he's been hooking up with guys alot. Like almost 3x a week, with different guys! He's using grindr and his life pretty much revolves around that app now. He tells me his sex stories and at first I was kinda disgusted. I found it very indecent because im not really that kind of person. And I didn't like that he's turned into like a bottom wh*re who sleeps with everyone and gets f*cked by anyone.
However as time goes by, I tolerated his activities. I was ok with it. After all he still kept talking to me and made time for me. And I cant control him anyway. He's a bit of a nymphomaniac. Plus He has anxiety and has trouble making friends. So he's using the app to make friends and to cope up with his loneliness since he's alone in Canada without family.
Anyway, so we kept our friendship well until recently he barely talks to me now. I feel like he doesnt care about me now. All he cares is about himself and sex. He takes me for granted. Like last month, we were supposed to skype for my birthday but instead he hooked up with someone and let me down. We had a fight about that but I forgave him. But now Im getting pissed off again because I thought he'll make up for that and make more time for me again. But he never did. He always ignores my message and doesn't talk to me. I have had alot of stories that I wanted to tell him but time passed and I just had to forget them. It's irritating. He prefers talking to his grindr friends and having sex even more.
So now, I wanna leave him and forget him. I wanna delete him from my life. Like literally just block him and disappear. Would it make me bad? He doesn't need me anyway and im tired of him letting me down. And I don't wanna be friends with him anymore. If he prefers his sex friends then so be it!
Additional:
I also began getting disgusted with him again. I guess I never really accepted his activities. Just tolerated. But now I cant. I mean his life is all about grindr and sex. And it's even becoming worse. He's done threesomes now and probably soon he can do an orgy. And I find that really nasty to be honest. I don't wanna be associated with someone like that.... He also has a new facebook and has 30 friends (and counting) which are all from grindr and he had sex with. And that really makes me feel weird and uncomfortable. He even plans to take one of them with him when he visits me here. And i really don't wanna meet any of his sex friends because I think they're indecent people who are desperate and have low lives.
Lastly, he never really planned to meet me here in my place. He doesn't like my city and he always tells me that I should be the one to visit him in Canada. He'll only come to me because he's meeting this guy he met on grindr, who now lives in a nearby state to mine. And he just plans to stop over by my place. So it kinda pissed me off again that he would travel to Usa to meet this sex friend but he wont do it for me. Like im just a secondary purpose. Which is another reason why i wanna leave him too!
Anyway that's all. Sorry for such long message! And im sorry if I have such a negative opinion about people who uses Grindr.