I just had my first dildo experience...it hurt like hell

[danwd172]

OK, this thread is sort off the sequence of another thread I post 5 days ago- protatitis and anal sex

Anyway, I just had my first dildo experience today, and turned out it was horrible. I found it was difficult to get the dildo fully inside of my ass. I used plenty of lube, but it could only penetrate my anus in about 2 inches(basically only the head of the dildo)and couldn't go any deeper.
I tried to push the dildo harder several times, but it was very painful and made me bleed. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and gave up.

The dildo is 6.6 inches length, 5.1 inches girth. I don't know it is because my anus was not loose enough or my virgin ass just need to start with a smaller object, like a butt-plug or a smaller dildo?

I'm worried that the same problem will happen again when I finally get a chance to have my first bottoming experience.

Any advice?

[GayDatingExpert]

Get a thinner dildo, start small and work your way up the scale. Ultimately it'll be like jamming a traffic cone up your ass, work it in gradually and relax.

[pellaz]

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[Bowyn Aerrow]

OK, this thread is sort off the sequence of another thread I post 5 days ago- protatitis and anal sex

Anyway, I just had my first dildo experience today, and turned out it was horrible. I found it was difficult to get the dildo fully inside of my ass. I used plenty of lube, but it could only penetrate my anus in about 2 inches(basically only the head of the dildo)and couldn't go any deeper.
I tried to push the dildo harder several times, but it was very painful and made me bleed. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and gave up.

The dildo is 6.6 inches length, 5.1 inches girth. I don't know it is because my anus was not loose enough or my virgin ass just need to start with a smaller object, like a butt-plug or a smaller dildo?

I'm worried that the same problem will happen again when I finally get a chance to have my first bottoming experience.

Any advice?

Finger first - a well lubed finger, preferably with a rubber/latex glove on since you already have an infection up yonder and you don't want to make matters worse in any way.

IF the pain is as the sphincter, that takes time, massage and relaxation.

Understand that a penis is not like a dildo or a finger. A penis even when 'rock-hard' is malleable and gives a lot more than even the fully rubber dildos that have little to no surface give - but flop around. Thus sex with a penis of comparative size will not be as hard as a dildo.

Relaxing into the act helps with the sphincter and yes with practice you get less pain on entry and things go smoother.

IF the pain is deeper inside, say the prostate, then I fear you will have to forgo anal sex - at least being on the receiving end.

[Jayd]

As others have said, start small. Also, its best to feel relaxed when you try to place it in. You want it to be as natural as possible. Be sure to get the tip in comfortably with no pain. This may take several tries, and once the tip is in comfortable, use your "anal muscles" to draw in the rest of the dildo. Let it pull it in naturally. From there, enjoy the pressure against the prostate. It can be a wonderful sensation when done correctly!!!

[zeon]

Best advice is about relaxing and see wqhere you go from there... Dildos are ment to represent the real deal however having never shoved a piece of rubber up my arse (petrified it would break inside and explain that to the doctors who are removing things from your arse) i tend to find it wouldnt be as flexable as a real proper penis... Anal sex isnt about tearing yourself a new arsehole because the old one isnt good enough so you bleed yourself stupid it is about enjoying the moment insert a little and when it stings stop relax your muscles and then just use the little bit inside to exercise your arse and when your ready and the pain eases put a little more in... If your bleeding it is because you have damaged the lining and when this happens rule out sex altogether as your not properly protected... Like driving a car without insurance.l.. You always say it will never have an accident but the day you do your screwed.... Bit like a hole in your arse if the bloke your being fucked by has something like gonorrea and he suddenly goes Ahhhhh and wobbles with excitement over the orgasm... Your going to be saying Oh bollocks thats torn it and hey presto you got gonorrea.... I would practise the dildo a bit more as you also dont want to be tight with the condom inside too providing you use one x

[Jay125]

Agree with GDE

Get a smaller girth dildo and also agree with playing with your finger first.

[pellaz]

... finger first

could be a daily shower effort but dont use the soap here.

[avidcyclistMTB]

This might sound funny, but does your dildo have a curve to it? If it does, try it with the curve the other way. My partner has a distinct upward curve and I can only take him when he gives from behind or it hurts a lot past the first couple of inches.

We're all built differently, but it sounds like if you were bleeding, you went too big too fast.

Lots of good advice ahead of this comment but the best is relaxation and starting small and working up.

[BeautifulBlue]

5.1 thick seems like a bit much, especially for a first-timer.

Again, broken record: the finger thing does the trick. I've also found that warm water helps relax the lining of your anus.