Cousin getting married. What to do?

[Person66]

I like your suggestions, they make sense, I just have to add some things that may clarify my situation;
1-my cousin most likely will ask me to bring my boyfriend as she is close to her Aunt (not related to me) who is a lesbian, and that's just the way she is.

2- you have to understand how my relatives operate, there will be no brawl or hostility, they will recieved us graciously. However after we leave they will proceed to say the nastiest things on earth about me and say this to EVERYONE they know.

Side note- Isn't my AIDS specialist cousin a dick! Besides what I already mentioned he once said he likes to visit his patients very early in the morning while they're asleep. That way he can claim he tryed to see then, update their charts without having to interact with them. What he said about his gay AIDS patients is mostly unprintable except when he said it was a good thing that protease inhibitors didn't come out until the mid 90's that way a large swath of gay patients died. I never figured out how he became so respected and prosperous in his field.

[pellaz]

i failed to press your main responsibility is your partner has a better than expected time. Take some time out of the schedule to have the alone time with him. Make sure his needs are met 100%, dont leave him hanging.

[Person66]

I always try to make sure he has a good time. Like when we went to Miami Beach I arranged for a three day extension, so we could drive down to KeyvWest so were could swim with Dolphins (something he's always wanted to do).
But he tends too one up me in the " good boyfriend"" area.
Like I was reading a series of manga (Japanese graphic novels)
only to find out that the final book isn't printed in this country. Yet somehow he found the Japanese language version and had a classmate in his Japanese class who translated it for me.
It's my favorite book ever (now).

[pellaz]

Keeper,,,,,

[dlboy53]

Sounds like you know what to do. So do it. Don't let others dictate how you feel.

[Pix]

Fun fact: first cousins can legally marry in California (assuming a heterosexual couple) and many other states, and I believe they have full federal recognition and their marriages accepted in nearly all other states, too.

[Rainbowmum]

Screw them ,get your partner and go .
Put on your dancing shoes and give them all something to gape at and talk about.

[Person66]

Lol, oh mum I love your advice, it really makes me want to take him and go especially since he's the perfect date for things like this. Handsome, intelligent, articulate, charismatic and funny.

First I did what Daz said and called her, she seemed eager for me to come with him.
When I told him (my partner), he seemed to think it was a good idea to go to.
The good news is that the AIDS Doctor relative (the bride's uncle), isn't invited (very long story)

I'm going to California, but Nick had a good idea too.
When I get there I'll meet with my cousin and based on what she says.,
Do what I (technically we, with my partner) think is right.
I don't have a pair of shoes I set aside for dancing.

[dfiant]

If your cousin insists and your partner is happy, then go and have the best night of your life and celebrate with your cousin and her husband...bugger the back stabbers

[sonofthemanse]

On the one hand, it's her wedding day and you don't want to steal the show so go alone. On the other hand, it's her day so if she wants your partner there, bring your partner. Has she invited your partner? Ask her what she wants. Above all, you'll be there only as a witness so whatever you do, make sure it doesn't cause a scene! Otherwise your friendship with your cousin will be severely damaged. Hope it all works out for you!