andrew Wrote:I've been single for about four years now. I honestly think there's something wrong with me. What's a guy to do to find someone?
I once thought that appearances didn't really matter that much nowadays. I bathe every day, brush my teeth, and am generally friendly. What is wrong? I'm just ranting here.
There is nothing wrong with you.
I live by a rule, i assume every guy is straight unless they tell me otherwise, i think this rule actually goes out amongst alot of gay men, simply because making a pass at some straight men is the last thing some gay men ever get to do, before they are beaten the crap out of and watch their confidence flutter out the window.
See the world is too judgemental for its own good, acceptance is what we been fighting for all these years.
It is because of this lack of acceptance that gay men find it hard to find other gay men.
Going to a gay bar or club might be one way, but if your like me, ive never been to a gay bar or club, because of where i live, i know so many people, i will probably disappear and never be found again, if these people found out i was gay... *yes still a little in the closet, for safety reasons mainly*
but give you a idea dude, you could be a great attractive guy, walking down a street, another guy walks towards you and you both make eye contact but because you fear the other might be straight you make nothing of it and keep walking on.
Now i aint saying broadcast yourself everywhere, but the best way i found is coming to places like this, finding friends, meetings friends of those friends, and soon before you know it your got a network going, and by some chance you meet someone, then all is well, you avoided bodily harm and you made good friends along the way.
It all a matter of time, and exercising patiences on a daily basis.
&^.^