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I frequently have the bad feeling that I gonna be single forever
#11
Guys who are looking for sexual encounters usually are only looking for sexual encounters.
Age 30 is 'Saturn's Return' http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturn_return. There is a bit of real psychology behind this phenomena, people change with time and our lives are dissected into greater 'eras' where we undergo a lot of change.

Currently you are in the cusp of your 'Return' - and most of the guys you are dating are just entering it. In three years time if you are dating/befriending guys closer to your age you are going to find that a lot more of them are going to be looking at their life and viewing settling down as a real viable option.

Age 30 tends to mark a mile stone of maturity for most people. We become painfully aware that our 'childhood' really has ended, we have had a decade of real adulthood (being an adult) full of experiences, and we start feeling mortality breathing down our necks.

Your wanting a kid is fine, but I suspect that you are more turned on to the idea of not being alone than in being a parent. You are in a delicate place, and until you resolve this 'alone vs relationship' issue inside of you, taking on the work of raising a child mayn't be the very best thing for you.

I entered into my currently 14 year relationship when I was 32 This followed a period of about 2 1/2 years of being in a self-imposed 'single prison' where I refused to date, refused to entertain the idea of a relationship until men grew up and started to behave. :tongue:

That period was self imposed because I got sick and tired of the game playing, sick and tired of all of the sexual games guys were willing to play just to score another conquest, and frankly my last relationship broke me in ways that non other had achieved - it stole my hope.

During that period I threw myself into doing things for myself, by myself and laying out the rest of my life as a single person.

The best laid plans of mice and men.... I met a guy 6 months younger than me (were we both 32 at the time) and he had pretty much reached the same point I had, we both were on the same page and a relationship developed out of what was first a friendship.

Age does play a large role in how people think about themselves, their place in the world and even how the world works.
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#12
to be honest i feel exactly the same way sometimes,,, still hoping for a miracle but most things i touch turns to shit really ,, almost to the point where i expect bad luck in everything - if u find the magic answer gayusasian let me in on the secret
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#13
never be alone.call gay singles line.
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#14
Don't worry...your prince charming will come along sooner than you think Smile
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#15
ESLteacher Wrote:I wouldn't focus on it too much. When I was in my early twenties I did and it always ended back, now I'm 29 and I haven't focused on it in years. If it happens then so be it, but in the mean time I'm going to live my life and fulfil my goals...hence why I live in China now Smile



Zhuhai is my second hometown.
Enjoy this beautiful small city in South China.
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#16
mickeymouse Wrote:never be alone.call gay singles line.
888-634-9509

Thanks for your hookup line. But I don't need this.

I have had a period that I opened accounts on every gay dating or hookup sites I can find.
Now I deleted every single one of them except okcupid.com
I think I am over the slutty stage.
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#17
Just make friends. You'll hold back the loneliness more often than not and they increase your chance of finding someone because they'll want to either set you up with others or you'll just get to meet their friends.
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#18
But if you need I have a compilation of the saddest songs ever... if you like wallowing... I'm a sad song person so I do lol
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#19
Don't beat yourself up over it buddy! I'm sure the time will come when you find that special someone! besides being single means you can have more fun in the mean time
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#20
@gayuasian...Hey u knw I have the same feeling lyku u that i would end up livng alone coz I cnt marry a woman n if i do it would be more hard to leave then now (though i want n lead a normal lyf but cant as m more emotionally sexually attratcted to men only(almost 95% towards men).But i thing i would adopt a baby in future..
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