Another, 'Holy crap! I've been denying this too long!" Read on. ;)

[dtanner]

OK, I'm 30 in 2 weeks and freaking out. A little background on me..... been bi curious since like 10, and then acted on some homosexual urges with a guy younger then me when I was 16 and ended up with a juvenile sex charge! I honestly feel that I started with this terrible 'label' way too young and its created problems for me in my life with views of others , etc. Anyway, I've always had heterosexual relationships since then and like I have def loved some of these girls, but deep down I know that my sex drive prefers guys. It's hard for me to accept it myself, but now with my 30th birthday approaching I'm thinking more about my life and its direction. I'm too self conscious and worried about image, even tho I'm pretty sure almost everyone thinks I am gay. Its just never been discussed.

Another huge factor are my 2 God sons whom I've practically raised since I was 18 and they are now 14 and almost 17. They're my life and I just fear letting them down with that kinda news. Arrrgghhhh. I know I sound like some crazy mo fo you guys. Any ideas?

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[archubbycub]

Let me tell you like one friend told me. You only have one life in which to be happy so live your life so that you are!

[LateBloomer]

OK, I'm 30 in 2 weeks and freaking out. A little background on me..... been bi curious since like 10, and then acted on some homosexual urges with a guy younger then me when I was 16 and ended up with a juvenile sex charge! I honestly feel that I started with this terrible 'label' way too young and its created problems for me in my life with views of others , etc. Anyway, I've always had heterosexual relationships since then and like I have def loved some of these girls, but deep down I know that my sex drive prefers guys. It's hard for me to accept it myself, but now with my 30th birthday approaching I'm thinking more about my life and its direction. I'm too self conscious and worried about image, even tho I'm pretty sure almost everyone thinks I am gay. Its just never been discussed.

Another huge factor are my 2 God sons whom I've practically raised since I was 18 and they are now 14 and almost 17. They're my life and I just fear letting them down with that kinda news. Arrrgghhhh. I know I sound like some crazy mo fo you guys. Any ideas?

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You're not crazy. You're just at a crossroads and faced with a CHOICE.

But it's not a choice between gay & straight. It's a choice between living openly in the sunshine or keeping things in the dark, covered up.

You already know who you are, but there are others close to you who DON'T.

I totally understand because I faced the same thing except around age 40. I also have a goddaughter, who was quite young when I came out so really doesn't have any idea of what happened, but my fear at the time was the reaction of her parents....who, by the way, were GREAT!



I found that I underestimated the people closest to me. It's unfair to keep things from them and it's unfair to deny them the benefit of the doubt.

Take the risk. You sound ready. Test those relationships and let's see just how deep their love really is. I'm betting you'll be very surprised.

Good luck,
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