I don't know what to do and i really need your advice.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

i understand what you said fenris and thank you so much! so you're saying i dont have to deal with my hairs?

Unless you look like this:



I doubt you are too hairy.

Yes, some men need to get a beard trimmer and set in on 2-3 and run it over their body every week or so. This is like getting a hair cut (a trim) not like shaving your head (bald).

My partner (who has lots of hair on legs and chest, a bit I don't dare mention on his back as he would freak to know about them) Uses the beard trimmer to keep all the hairs on chest, belly and down around the um, you know.... shorter. Not completely removed, not so short as they stick up like a porcupine, just a tad shorter and more even.

I even use it for the handful of chest hairs I have (I set it on 2) and for the hairs down around - well you know. Just to keep everything looking tidy and even.

Hairy legs tend to stay shorter and even on even the hairiest of men. It has something to do with wearing pants, jeans socks and other clothing. Below the belt clothing tends to rub more at the legs/hair than above the belt clothing.

[Rumble88]

okay im not gonna completely get rid of them. you guys convinced me. im not gonna get rid of them all but i think it should get more infrequent.

[Rumble88]

how often does your partner shaves his body?

[East]

I personally would not change a thing...I am extremely superstitious about it because I beleive the journey is about accepting ourselves for who and what we are instead of changing ourselves....and that would be my advice to you...BUT...

The older you get the more you learn (hopefully:biggrin...and I realized along the way that some people NEED to change things about themselves for one reason or another and it is simply not my place to judge them or impose my own beliefs or superstitions on them.

Case in point...I love my age and am proud of it. I wouldn't'; change any of my wrinkles or (GAG):eek: use any hair products for men...if Mother Nature and my genes have deemed I be bald ...I will happily be bald. I have a friend though who is nearly my polar opposite and thinks she has to change everything and so the first time she had plastic surgery to her face I was horrified...and she called me over to have a look and f*ck me if her face didn't look exactly the same to me (thankfully I kept my mouth shut...not saying what I really think is a constant struggle for me)...

..I didn't notice anything EXCEPT I saw that she was glowing.,.and at that moment I DID see the change and I learned that maybe some people need to change in order to feel better about themselves and who am I or anyone else to judge?

So do wait a few more years before you make any decisions...really think about it...and hopefully you will make the decision that is right for you. I dont think hair is bad at all and I would choose to accept it but I am not you and in the end you have to be true to yourself and not anyone else. Good luck to you!

[Rumble88]

okay im not gonna touch to my legs. i hope i won't say ''i wish i did that'' in the future. but thank everyone who tried (and sucseeded) to help me. you people are really good. thank you

[Rumble88]

Which country do you think i can live more easily ?

[fenris]

Which country do you think i can live more easily ?

I just can talk about Germany .... here it is not hard to live a a gay man... or gay couple...

The European Union has laws against discrimination of gay and lesbian people.... the last survey "How secure we feel in our countrys in the EU" was in April or Mai ... so I think if the Turkey becomes a EU-Member they have same laws against discrimination.

But.... for more gay or lesbian people it is not a Question where they life .. it is more a problem that they want to be acceptet by their familiy/s....

[Rumble88]

i have no worries about my family. they caught some of the videos i watched few years earlier and they haven't said anything about it since then. and even if turkey becomes a EU member and we get those rights.. i don't think much about it can change. People in here doesn't insult you or physicly harm you. But they try not to contact you. You automaticly being alone.
And i said something but it looks like no one saw it so im gonna ask it again. What do you think 5.5 inches down there? Can that be a problem for my future relationship?

[fenris]

i have no worries about my family. they caught some of the videos i watched few years earlier and they haven't said anything about it since then. and even if turkey becomes a EU member and we get those rights.. i don't think much about it can change. People in here doesn't insult you or physicly harm you. But they try not to contact you. You automaticly being alone.
And i said something but it looks like no one saw it so im gonna ask it again. What do you think 5.5 inches down there? Can that be a problem for my future relationship?

Thats normal .... I think its average for european mens.... but I would not make any thoughts about it ... you can´t change it ..even if you want it But honestly... if your partner love you... its not important what you have between your legs ... its more important what you have between your ears ....
I ever would ever prefer a honest, loving and caring man instead of a few inches more.... and love and caring comes from your brain .. not from "down there" mile:

[Blue]

EU, as a whole is probably the most LGBT friendly. Here in the USA it is very regional, some areas are friendly, some neutral and some still pretty anti gay. For the most part, here, the more fundamental Christians in an area, the less gay friendly it is.