09-30-2012, 05:13 AM
I came out to my parents last year, and a week ago I came out to my best friend. We've been buddies since middle school and even though we don't go to the same high school we talk, I guess talked, on the phone every day. I knew he was a bit homophobic but I was sure he'd accept me.
At first it seemed like he did even though he was completely surprised. After learning that I couldn't see him as a sexual interest (like my brother), he relaxed alot. He told me he was ok with it after hyperventilating for ten minutes. He even told me to tell my other friends! Then a day passed by without a call. I called him to chat and he seem uncomfortable and distant, even angry. Its been a week and I haven't heard from him. This may not seem like a long time but he calls like clockwork to tell me something every day. My mother said that my friend was simply uncomfortable with a gay friend and that he would just drift away. He might not hate me but it'll never be like before.
Is that true, has anyone had really close friends that started trying to drift away after they came out. I am having trouble dealing with this because he's really my only close friend
At first it seemed like he did even though he was completely surprised. After learning that I couldn't see him as a sexual interest (like my brother), he relaxed alot. He told me he was ok with it after hyperventilating for ten minutes. He even told me to tell my other friends! Then a day passed by without a call. I called him to chat and he seem uncomfortable and distant, even angry. Its been a week and I haven't heard from him. This may not seem like a long time but he calls like clockwork to tell me something every day. My mother said that my friend was simply uncomfortable with a gay friend and that he would just drift away. He might not hate me but it'll never be like before.
Is that true, has anyone had really close friends that started trying to drift away after they came out. I am having trouble dealing with this because he's really my only close friend