Hello from a straight woman

[Rainbowmum]

Hello Lilli

[monk]

Welcome!

[Nick9]

Hi lili, welcome to GS

I know that yaoi is loved by a huge amount of straight girls and women. Yaoi, gay erotic novels and gay porn as well, you are definitely not the only one and there is no need to feel weird If you look at the authors you can realize that many of them are also written by women.

There are several threads at GS, one example:
http://www.gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=19562

[ChadCoxRox]

Smiles and smiles and smiles reading your post Lili! Your consideration and interest are delightful.

It is indeed very easy to consider one or another stereotypical idea about homosexual culture. It is the idea of refusing to limit one's determinations based solely upon one or another of these classic or popular ideas that makes for true room for growth and acceptance. So personally I thank you sincerely. I would from there challenge you to help us (homosexual culture) spread the word that there is no solely accurate stereotype. Homosexual people run the full gammit from feminine to masculine just like heterosexual people. Of course you clearly understand this and I'm not preaching to the choir here, but acknowledged the true value in having you visit and be a part of GS.

I can assure you I'll be very tolerant of your musings and questions and I've witnessed very little to no irrational intolerance in this forum.

I am especially intrigued by your description of how the Japanese female population are thought to have begun Yaoi. I find that very interesting and think this would be a wonderful area for thesis work comparing the history to the overt societal and cultural norms regarding sex, procreation, religion and politics in Japan. I would LOVE to hear from some of our Asian members on any understanding that might could be shared.

Thanks for an exemplary thread dear! I'll probably visit this one to re-review a few times!

[Swan]

As a lady myself, I'm going to jump right in there and say it -- at least 50% of all females know of and enjoy yaoi and/or gay porn (however secretly or openly that may be). We get a lot of flack about it from men who find it disgusting that women watch such things -- but then, guys watch lesbian porn so it's a bit of a double standard! If you'd like to connect with other women who share this interest, you can check out forums like aaronfantasy and social media sites like tumblr.

It's perfectly alright for you to find such things interesting and enjoyable even if you wouldn't practice them yourself; that is what media entertainment is for -- to explore, learn about and enjoy things you wouldn't actually want to do in real life but still think of as interesting and entertaining. This is doubly true when it comes to porn (animated or otherwise!)

About role assignment: In most modern-day gay relationships in the West, there are no set roles. About 90% of gay male couples I've interacted with may prefer bottoming/topping but have no qualms with switching it up at all. The "set role" phenomena you witness in Japanese porn is, however, very real to them. One person (the top -- aka the "seme" in Japanese) does absolutely all of the work. The other (the bottom/"uke") simply lies there submissively and amplifies the image with crying and helpless noises. It has been my experience that this relationship ideal in Japan is very, very real, and trying to switch it up or "equal the playing field" can be confusing and very disconcerting for them even/especially in straight relationships. But that isn't the case for most Western gay males as far as I know. Some are going to be feminine, some masculine, some anywhere in between, and some without a care -- but you won't as often see the Seme/uke dynamic in Western couples as you would in Japanese couples. (I could honestly go on forever about the Japanese dynamics if you'd like, as it's very different but hard to explain in just a few sentences, so if you'd like to know more about what you're seeing in the Japanese presentation specifically from a cultural perspective, please feel free to PM me).

I certainly don't find you to be out of place here. During gay pride fests and such, you'll often find straight supporters of gays or politely/genuinely curiously individuals who like to call themselves "straight, not narrow," and you seem to fit right in with that. You're courteous and kind and your posts are thoughtful... so don't worry : )

[megumidesu]

welcome ^^

just to let you know , yaoi is always pretty explicit . the anime / manga that focuses more on the romance etc is called shounen-ai ~

[Kiid]

If I had to choose one religion I would go with Buddhism, except I really really like meat.

I like this bit. And I too like meat

hun you can ask me any questions you like!

Being gay for me. Uhm... Well I fell a little bit more colourful that others sometimes. I'm sure it is different for everyone. I find it easy to be 'feminine' rather than 'masculine'. I find that lots of gay males are a little bit more 'feminine' than straight males. I find that there are also plenty of 'masculine' gay female (I didn't use lesbian cos I know lot gay females that hate the turn tho I still call them dykes just to jest.) Though I have met many seemingly hetero gay males/females.

Also I alway watch tv with my mum and tell her how bad the acting is and how over dramatic things are and generally hating on american tv.
props for not having a TV the world could do with less of them.

[princealbertofb]

Thanks for your lengthy answer, Lilli, which I don't have time to read wholly right now... (will get back to it ). I get the business about diabetic and cake window shopping and how beautiful is beautiful... Great answers. Anyway, welcome to the clan. mile:

[Dan1980]

Hi Lilli welcome to GaySpeak.

[TryingNewThing]

Can I just ask one favor?

Can you compile a little Q&A and post it in the forum when you're done with your interview questions? I'd love to read it too!! Ofc, you can anonymize the answers