05-18-2013, 09:51 AM
Hello everyone, i'm new here. I joined because I was looking for other gay people to talk to seeing as how I don't know any gay people in real life.
Today I had a question regarding gay dating er... the process leading up to dating.
I have an OkCupid account where I tend to message guys that I like, and when they suddenly stop talking to me I have this desire to find out why they put me aside. Normally I don't pursue because I ask my friends about their opinion on it. Every time I ask though I get the question "why do you like him? why do you think you want to date him? why do you want to date in the first place?"
So my question is how do you answer these questions. I can answer the first two based on the person's personality, appearance, interests, etc. but the last one always baffles me. I want to say it's to finally experience what it's like to be in a relationship, but I really wonder if it's more reaffirming myself that I can date also.
Do any of you have thoughts like these? Any answers to the "why do you want to date someone?" question?
Today I had a question regarding gay dating er... the process leading up to dating.
I have an OkCupid account where I tend to message guys that I like, and when they suddenly stop talking to me I have this desire to find out why they put me aside. Normally I don't pursue because I ask my friends about their opinion on it. Every time I ask though I get the question "why do you like him? why do you think you want to date him? why do you want to date in the first place?"
So my question is how do you answer these questions. I can answer the first two based on the person's personality, appearance, interests, etc. but the last one always baffles me. I want to say it's to finally experience what it's like to be in a relationship, but I really wonder if it's more reaffirming myself that I can date also.
Do any of you have thoughts like these? Any answers to the "why do you want to date someone?" question?