Weird feelings

[notsogay]

Hi Guys,

I am not quite sure what is my sexual orientation? I am 25, and All my life I was only attracted to women. I like how some guys look, but it was more of "I wanna look like that" than "I wanna be with him" kind of likeness. I have never had sex before.

Most of the times I am straight with no problems. But there are other times when plain old straight masturbation doesn't do! I practice anal masturbation and Imagine I am being a bottom. Photos of women are required to get me started but then I am ok. I enjoy being penetrated and it starts amazing feeling in my body. The notion of a man seems to disappear as I no longer care who is with me, just what is happening down there.

lately I have started to like trying sleeping on top of a man without penetration. But whenever my imagination take me to kissing I just feel repulsed!

I am also turned on by fire, but I can't say that I am a pyrophylic person.

Am I bisexual? gay? straight?

HELP

[oiramittedeneb]

Well, first of all, welcome to the forum, hope you have fun. Regarding what you´re saying, have you been with a women before?

[ThatRobGuy]

You yourself are even saying you aren't attracted to men or the thought of being with a man romantically and that your "attraction" is akin to wanting to be like them. Sounds like envy, not homosexuality.

[Aeneas]

to enjoy having objects being shoved up your ass doesnt mean you are necessarily gay. straight men wont let anything near the anus due to social stigma; but there are loads of sensitive tissues and nerves down there, the male's G-spot can be triggered with the finger inside it and so on and so forth.

if men repulse you you could try having a lady putting their fingers in there. i doubt they will lick it which is even more pleasurable but you could try asking. or, play with sexual toys.

if on the other hand the notion of having a cock inside it tickles your fancy... well then you very well might be gay.

[unkown21]

Welcome to the forum sweetie. It sounds to me that you don't really have an attraction to men, like you said above, you want to look like the hot men. That doesn't make one gay. I also know of a few of my straight friends that like to do anal maturation, and i even know one guy that has his wife play with his back regions. So just because you like anal maturation doesn't make you gay, it just means that you are open to exploring your sexual side, and that is completely healthy, and there is nothing wrong with that. Now I will say this. Only you know deep down inside if you are gay, straight or bi. I tried to convince myself that I was a straight "normal" man for most of my life, but deep down inside I knew that I wasn't. Nobody here will be able to tell you if you're straight or gay, or bisexual, that is something that you are going to have to discover on your own hunny, i hope you are able to find the answers you are looking for!!!

Huggs

[pellaz]

porn is not a good indication of anything. there has been a lot written about this here. Search gayspeak what people think this area.

sexuality is an individual thing. dont try to put labels.

with every decision in your life try to be the better person
try to build on what you have.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Anal stimulation happens for men (and women) no matter their sexual orientation.

Sounds to me old 'regular' porn has stopped working for you, which is common enough now days with such a high volume of porn produced to where many straight guys now turn on the gay-porn in order to get off.

Gay is more than just sex, being gay means you are attracted to men as a whole package, not just for a romp in the hay (sex). an you see yourself innocently kissing a guy (other than lustful sex kissing)? What about cuddling/snuggling and not just as prelude or post coital blissful - but 'innocently' doing that?

Ever had an inclination to settling down with a guy, building a life together?

If the answer is no to all of those, chances are you are straight and not even bi.

If only a few of those hit a deeper spot in your heart (not your crotch) chances are you are bi.

If all of those hit home and you can easily see yourself doing those, chances are high you are gay.

Again, anal penetration, even sucking a cock isn't in itself a determining factor of your sexual orientation. It only means you are horny and want sex.

[seeking]

if you are not attracted to men and, the thoughts of kissing men turn you off, then you probably are not gay.

Try asking your female partner to wear dildo and do it with your ass maybe, or those have said above

[MisterTinkles]

Some people "blossom" in life at different stages.

Most people discover themselves during thier teen years. Some in their 20's, some later on in life.
Learning about yourself is not something that is set by a clock or calendar. it can happen at anytime, anyplace, to any person.

I think you are just discovering what you like, in ways of sexual contact, and becoming an adult in this area.

People get confused with all the differnt thoughts in their head, they get confused with all the different feelings and emotions running around inside them. This doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you or that you are "one way or the other".

You are just figuring yourself out. Trying to decypher what it is that makes your sexual preferences "tick". What it is you like, who it is that attracts you.

No one can tell you if you are gay, straight, or whatever else there may be out there......you are just going thru some more growing up phases in your life.

Give it some time, you will finally figure out what it is you like, who you like, and what your preferences are concerning these issues.

Dont let anyone categorize you until YOU are ready to decide what it is that makes you, you.

[notsogay]

Thank you guys for your kind comments and worm welcomes. You really helped me! I may not be gay, but I still hope you don't mind me sticking around here for a while... just to be sure