Im A Total Bottom... How Can I Become More Versatile?

[PhillyBoy45]

I'm a total bottom. I like being dominated... it turns me on but the problem is taking penis is hard for me to do. I guess some people no matter what will ever feel completely comfortable with it.

I would like to become at least a verse bottom

Being verse is good for many reasons. Some times my anal is sore and if I was a verse I would be able to top when i dont want to bottom. Also, being just a bottom limits my dating pool or hookup pool.

My friends are verse they can easily find a guy to hook up with or date because they are into both bottoming and topping they can have it either way but me i can only date strict tops which are hard to find there aren't many guys who are strict anything nowadays. My problem is I find it hard to top. When I tried I couldnt get hard enough to penetrate another guy. I have a mental block with topping. I see myself as less masculine than the guy i can only imagine him topping me. I dont know just need help and advice or answers

[tomking]

I have had a lot of sex..I meet hundreds of guys and love sex when single..However I cannot get hard with one of them..So I am bottom...I would be versatile if I could get hard long enough let alone maintain an erection.

It really saddens me too because I would love to give a guy that kind of pain and pleasure...I have thought about Viagra.

The problem with me is I am very dominant and yet am a bottom because of my penis...Which is a total paradox and I guess it doesnt work because tops dont wanna be dominated usually and bottoms wanna be penetrated

[Bowyn Aerrow]

How often to you have sex? If not very often then its gonna hurt the sphincter. Regular 'exercise' (fingering, small dildos or sex with your mate) will get you used to that.

Also lots of lube and gentle pressures.

If its internal pain, such as the prostate it may be that you have a chronic minor prostate infection. I had one for a couple years and had to take mega-doses of antibiotics in order to get that (and several other bacterial issues like stomach troubles - its all connected) taken care of.

It took a prostate exam where doctor discovered that my prostate was 'boggy'. Doctor wrote me a heavy duty prescription for antibiotics and a prescription to masturbate daily for a couple three months.


As for being a top, it takes a special mentality - there is a reason why you prefer to be a bottom. Sex is not just about the act of sex, there is deeper emotions connected to it. You like being dominated, this most likely means that dominating others is not your cup of tea.

Trying to change that is fundamentally going to require you relearn to be someone you are not.

I did the whole switch from total bottom to total top - I wasn't happy with being a total top and though very able, I wasn't very satisfied. Besides which there is a lot of personality issues between two mental/emotional bottoms trying to make a go at a relationship.... It doesn't end well.