Is my husband Gay?

[ConcernedWife]

Hello all. Recently I was doing a clean up on my laptop and notice some random sites(I work in IT so this is something I do regularly for my pc). My husband and I DO watch porn so at first I was not real freaked out but once I read exactly what he was watching, I was concerned. He had been watching, "chicks with dicks," "gay black tranny" etc....

I had been on another forum and was told that the best people to speak too would be someone on a gay forum. What do you think? Should I be worried? Recently he has been infatuated with my butt and he likes me to stick my fingers in his...

I hope this doesn't offend anyone...I just need to know if I should approach him on this or let it go....We are newlyweds and I would hate to spend our marriage in dishonesty...especially for him...he would deserve what he really wants...if that is what he wants.

Thanks

[Nick9]

Hi,
no, I don't think you need to be worried. I would say he is just curious. Even if he watched gay porn it wouldn't mean he is gay. A lot of straight women watch it too btw.

If you don't mind, I am curious too... You are newlyweds, but your relationship is already open?

[dfiant]

If you have a relationship based on openness and honesty...I mean if he can ask you to stick fingers up your arse, why is it you can't broach the subject of sexuality?

Your husband would be the only person that could answer this question

[ConcernedWife]

Hi,
no, I don't think you need to be worried. I would say he is just curious. Even if he watched gay porn it wouldn't mean he is gay. A lot of straight women watch it too btw.

If you don't mind, I am curious too... You are newlyweds, but your relationship is already open?

lol, sorry. I just was in a hurry and tried to fill things in quick. What does that mean? We sleep with other people?

[Nick9]

lol, sorry. I just was in a hurry and tried to fill things in quick. What does that mean? We sleep with other people?

basically yes

You know, you can ask him if he would like you to use a strap on

[ConcernedWife]

basically yes

You know, you can ask him if he would like you to use a strap on

Funny that you mention that because I did ask him this morning if it was something he would want to try and he said yes and while we were having sex he said, "we should deff get one." For me it was more of.....me trying to see what he would say...

It's just all very weird for me. He's a good ol' country boy and in our 'woods' this stuff is frowned apon. Not that I myself have an issue with it but he has always been, "homofob" if I may.

[ConcernedWife]

Maybe because we are so open and are not afraid to explore...he is just try to explore for himself.

[TimeSage]

Part of me wants to say "Ask him" but I'm honestly not sure what that would do for your relationship

[Nick9]

You may ask him what is so attractive on that idea. If it's a curiosity or maybe a desire to be taken. It can be a lot of things.

Him being "a homofob" could also mean that he is hiding his feelings and wants to make sure that nobody is suspicious of him. But really, we can hardly tell you. Only he can.

[Miles]

A lot of men, gay straight or whatever, like prostate stimulation (eg, finger in the arse), that's normal. Nothing wrong with being curious and watching 'non-straight' porn. Not indicative of one's actual sexuality.

And 'open' relationship means not exclusive to one other partner.

Also, a man liking 'chicks-with-dicks' isn't gay. A man liking 'men-with-dicks' is gay :p