Is my husband Gay?

[ConcernedWife]

You may ask him what is so attractive on that idea. If it's a curiosity or maybe a desire to be taken. It can be a lot of things.

Him being "a homofob" could also mean that he is hiding his feelings and wants to make sure that nobody is suspicious of him. But really, we can hardly tell you. Only he can.

That was my thought too, about the homofobe thing.

It's nice to be able to talk to someone though. This is something I couldn't dare speak to anyone about. In little towns like this word spreads like wild fire ya know, even with your bff's!!! So I appreciate it!!!

[ConcernedWife]

A lot of men, gay straight or whatever, like prostate stimulation (eg, finger in the arse), that's normal. Nothing wrong with being curious and watching 'non-straight' porn. Not indicative of one's actual sexuality.

And 'open' relationship means not exclusive to one other partner.

Also, a man liking 'chicks-with-dicks' isn't gay. A man liking 'men-with-dicks' is gay :p

lol, I guess that makes sense. Maybe he is just really curious about butt sex? For me it hurts worse than....child birth? lol! I havn't had a baby yet but I suppose that's what it feels like coming out!!!

[HomeagainNYC]

We are newlyweds and I would hate to spend our marriage in dishonesty...especially for him...he would deserve what he really wants...if that is what he wants.

It's not possible for us to help you decide, what, if anything, is going on with your accidental discovery. If you meant what you said in the quote then why don't you just print out your post and ask him to read it; you've covered all your question/concerns in it and it's very non-judgmental or confrontational?

[Nick9]

yeah, I definitely know how a small town or a village feels... Not that I am talking about Prague LOL

[Nick9]

lol, I guess that makes sense. Maybe he is just really curious about butt sex?

Maybe he is fascinated by trannies... I mean it is unusual.

For me it hurts worse than....child birth? lol! I havn't had a baby yet but I suppose that's what it feels like coming out!!!

you are crazy, you know that, right? :biggrin:

[ConcernedWife]

It's not possible for us to help you decide, what, if anything, is going on with your accidental discovery. If you meant what you said in the quote then why don't you just print out your post and ask him to read it; you've covered all your question/concerns in it and it's very non-judgmental or confrontational?

I guess I am really just afraid of his reaction. I'm afraid he will be less open with me if I ask...I guess probably the best thing to do is see if anything else happens and if I get real worried, I should probably ask...

[ConcernedWife]

yeah, I definitely know how a small town or a village feels... Not that I am talking about Prague LOL

lol. It's amazing out small minded and critical people are. That's why I would talk to anyone about it that he knows. I would turn into something it's not...

[Miles]

One of the keys to good butt sexings is twice as much lube as you think you need. Not that I'd know, that's just the wisdom I've gleaned from more...shall we say, worldly peeps on here.

[ConcernedWife]

One of the keys to good butt sexings is twice as much lube as you think you need. Not that I'd know, that's just the wisdom I've gleaned from more...shall we say, worldly peeps on here.

HAHA, you are probably right. There was only one time that it didn't hurt and I think it was because I was so worked up? Not sure but it was exciting, evertime after that....yea not so much....IM JUST A WIMP

[Undreamt]

although he could just have a fetish.

This might sound strange but i know more straight guys who are interested in trannies than gay guys.