Gay and "Disabled".. can anyone else relate?

[Tyrion]

Just curious here.. I've mentioned this before, but I'm disabled.. born with a rare birthdefect where my bones are quite weak.. and I'm in a wheelchair. I also happen to be gay (I've known this for as long as I can remember). I find this to be an odd combination.. in the sense that I've never known anyone else with a disability who is also gay. Is there anyone else in a similar situation? Have you found a partner? I find dating hard.. but I see it more as an issue where I live than any thing else. Would be nice to know someone in a similar situation though. It's lonely being single for so long o.O!

[Spades]

Hi Tyrion. I too am disabled and very much gay I have multiple sclerosis, diagnosed when I was 17. For more than a year now I have also been in a wheelchair.

Do I think it is impossible to date? No.
Do I think it limits the dating pool? Yes - sadly, a lot of guys see a disabled partner as a nuisance.
Am I currently dating/found a partner? No, but also because of where I live.

I had a boyfriend once, it was before I was ina wheelchair. He accepted my limitations and he knew that I won't be able to join him for outdoor activities. It was because I moved that we broke up, we are still great friends!

[dfiant]

I wouldn't rule anyone out of my life just because they have a disability. I don't see either of you as disable, I prefer to see you guys with a different set of challenges.

After all, wheel chair bound guys play one of the most violent sports known to man...Murder Ball.

I wish you both all the best and hope you both find your knight in rainbow coloured armour

[rmf]

Hey guys! I'm also disabled (I think we need to start our own little cool club!) I have cerebral palsy. Mind you not in a wheelchair. I've had a few not so good relationships... they could not deal with the ongoing medical appointments... and decided that bulb things got worst down the road they could not remain in a relationship with me so we ended it. (that happened to me twice). I met my partner (now fiancé) in 2010. He proposed in May of last year. I always thought I would be single and okay with thatched until I met him.

[pauluk]

I have Chronic Fatigue and in a wheelchair. I dont think it`s impossible to date. If you think about it there will be plenty of people disabled in this world who would get dates.

[bluefox4000]

I have Cerebral Palsy.

It's certainly not impossible to date.

The limits can get annoying cause a bunch of people don't like the prospect of dating a disabled person.

I have a wife. So......there's good news for you, lol

Mick

[SolemnBoy]

I'm not disabled but I wouldn't rule anyone out as a potential partner because of a disability. We had a thread for that a while back and most people seemed to feel the same

[Spades]

I think it is a lot about the disabled person's attitude towards his disability; no one wants to date someone who thinks the world owes him something / negative the whole time / not willing to better himself. so keep your chin up, be positive and do your best.

[Tyrion]

Thanks for the responses so far!

Spades, I would totally agree, and anyone that really knows me, knows that my disability is something that doesn't really define who I am at all. It's something I rarely even think about, to be honest.. especially since it's always been this way for me. For others though, I feel all they see is the disability.. and that can suck.

The funny thing is though, I've been asked out a handful of times.. a few times recently.. and all by women. That's fine.. for a friendship type of thing.. but...

So yeah, being gay seems to make a difficult situation even more difficult. Nice to see that things can work out though. I generally have a positive attitude, so giving up is never an option for me. I just wish the right guy would hurry up and find me.. haha :p. Plus it's nice to hear from others who can relate.

[dfiant]

I think it is a lot about the disabled person's attitude towards his disability; no one wants to date someone who thinks the world owes him something / negative the whole time / not willing to better himself. so keep your chin up, be positive and do your best.

I think that negative attitude in general is a turn off, but it seems that a lot of disabled people do adapt a 'Woe for me, world owes me everything.' attitude and that is not an appealing quality in any person.

If you haven't noticed from some of my posts in the past, I have zero tolerance for sympathy seekers and people that think the world owes them something.

What's hot is someone that see's obstacles as a challenge and seeks a way to over come those obstacles, and they are people I will stand beside and urge on and help.

Spades, you have my utmost respect...you're hot