Long Distance (sex)

[Kingdee843]

Ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months and we have no type of intimacy. The first time we met we messed around big time and now since he's back home we don't do anything concerning sex. I have sent sexual pictures, and even talked dirty to him but he doesn't say anything or tried to push towards phone sex. Now I know everybody doesn't like phone sex but I mean we both have very high sex drives and phones where we can see each other on a video, so I don't see the problem. Sometimes I think he's cheating on me because how do you bust a nut how many times a week and its never with me. Also lately him and his cousins fiancée have became very close now maybe I'm just blowing things out of control with that situation so I just need advice. What do you guys think is going on?

[Woollyhats]

Just from this, I honestly can't tell you, sorry .

You need to vocalise that this is bothering you, though. It's possible he doesn't know this is bothering you so much --- ask him to put aside some time for you.

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[EvenOlderButWiser]

You need to ask him and stop trying to second guess whats going on.

LDR's are notoriously difficult to maintain, and can work, but usually after you have had a period of being together, but one has had to move away for work or college etc.

If the relationship has "always" been one of long distance, then as much as you may NOT want to hear this, your kidding yourself if you think you have a sold stable relationship. You don't mention your ages, and that absolutely has a bearing on things....

Good Luck,

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[TimeSage]

I suggest suggesting a form of open relantionship to him if he can't meet your needs entirely. My ex and I were in a semi-open one due to the distance. We could have any online hookup we wanted as long as we A: kept it online. B: Told the other person. It worked out pretty well.

I will note this is because neither of us considered virtual sex to be well... sex. Just interactive porn.

(We broke up for entirely unrelated reasons)